(Closed) Parents: 5 questions for you

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
Member
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

1. At what age did you have your first child?

 28 years old, she is now 3 months

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive?

 We were not, we conceived while I was on the pill a couple weeks before we got married.

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking  PRE-CONCEPTION.

 Again, it was a surprise. But we were ready financially and emotionally.

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your  first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much  sooner/longer and why??

 I probably would have wanted to have her when I was a bit younger but I don’t regret it. She is perfect.

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward  to a family of their own one day.

You will never really be “ready”. Life has no many ups and downs that I don’t think there is ever really the perfect time to have a baby. Just do what feels right. That said, a baby really is a life-changer, you will have to make some adjustments.

Post # 4
Member
895 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

1. At what age did you have your first child? 21

 

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive?
We weren’t. She was a surprise baby. I got pregnant on the pill.

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION.

Didn’t think kids were in the cards for me. At 18 I got told by an ob/gyn I had PCOS and would have to struggle. I wasn’t planning on children at that point and time. 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why?? Longer. We were broker than broke. Darling Husband was working as a teachers aide making $1000 a month and I made about $1200ish a month. We were in no position to start a family but everything worked out perfectly in the end and we are doing well on his teachers salary.

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day. Do as much as you can with eachother and enjoy eachother before taking that step. It has been hard for Darling Husband and I to get any alone time since we live 4hrs from our families and we don’t know many people where we live.

 

Post # 5
Member
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am due in September.

 

1. At what age did you have your first child?  28, almost 29

 

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive? three months

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION.
tried to start drinking more water, took prenatals, waited for Darling Husband to get a promotion so we could comfortably afford a baby, started cutting back on spending and practiced saving, and we read up on the TTC process

 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why??  I feel like this is perfect timing for us.  We are excited to become parents.

 

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day.  I wish that I wouldn’t have stressed as much while we were TTC.  I was so worried it would take forever, and DH’s schedule made it hard for us to fit BD’ing into that short ovulation window.  I wish I would have been more relaxed about the whole process.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
Member
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

1. At what age did you have your first child?

 24

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive?
Dirty Delete1 was a surprise.  Dirty Delete2 was conceived on the second cycle of NTNP.

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION.
Before we had Dirty Delete2 (I’m answering for this instance because she was planned) we went over finances and logistics (daycare, travel, family, school) to make sure we were mentally and financially prepared to have another little one.

 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why??
Dirty Delete1 was a surprise – honestly, I think that if I’d been 27 (age when we had Dirty Delete2) it would have been ideal.  I’d already graduated, had a lot of irresponsible fun and established a career so I have no regrets there, but I do wish I’d had another couple of years to travel with and without Darling Husband. But I am also very happy to be a young parent – we’re done having kids, I have more that enough energy and fun keeping up with the girls, and I’m really open and flexible so my lifestyle was easy to adapt to having two little ones πŸ™‚

 

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day.

I wouldn’t overthink it…in my opinion, a stable household with two parents excited and willing to love and adapt is all you need to prepare. 

Post # 7
Member
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

1. At what age did you have your first child?

I was 23.  

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive?
At that time I didn’t know what trying ment, so we just BD like rabbit and it happened the 2 second month which was a month after we got married. 

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION.
We bought me a new car that was more reliable and bought a house. The first 3 months I was pregnant I read 5 books on pregnancy and parenting. Later I read a book on Hypno birthing. I love reading! With my first child I didn’t eat much healthier except cutting out caffiene and foods I was told I had to. With my second pregnancy I cut out junk food, except pizza. 

 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why??
The timing was fine. 

 

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day.

Being a parent is harder than is seems. Don’t give up because it’s not what you thought it would be. 

Post # 8
Member
6823 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

1. At what age did you have your first child?

37 almost 38

 

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive? (if it’s not  too personal to answer, of course)

 

 We weren’t little boy was an opps but a good opps

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking  PRE-CONCEPTION. (maybe you rearranged your entire house? started  reading more? began thinking more positively? completely changed your  diet/lifestyle?)

 

I didn’t siince he was an opps, only thing I had been doing was dieting/exercising due to being engaged and getting ready for our wedding

 

 

 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your  first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much  sooner/longer and why?? (obviously this would mean not having the  same child, so pretend that you could have the same child if it helps you answer  this)

 

 Well since I was 37 most definately not later. AS for earlier no I wasnt ready for a child yet.

 

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward  to a family of their own one day.

 

Being a parent is hard but the reward is the best when you look into the child’s eyes that you and your dh/so/fi created.  Getting to hear/see all the firsts.

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 14
Member
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

1. At what age did you have your first child?

Pregnant at 22, had her at 23 

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive?
(if it’s not too personal to answer, of course)

i think about 3 months. I was off of BC for about 6 months when i finally got pregnant. 

 

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION.

I didnt do much to prepare because i didnt think i would get pregnant so fast. 

 

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why?? 

I could have waited longer but i love that i now have the energy to keep up with her. 

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day.

Dont stress about it, it will happen when your body is ready. You cant ever over prepare for a baby so ready up every book, blog, article, etc. Even after months of reading books i was shocked to find out what it was really like. Nothing can prepare you for being a parent but it is the most rewarding thing in the world. 

Also, make sure your relationship is healthy and at a good place. Children only make relationships harder but they do strenghten them as well. I made this mistake and am now divorced but it is what it is. 

and of course making sure you can financially afford it. 

Post # 16
Member
1737 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@darlingbee:

1. At what age did you have your first child? 22

2. How long were you “trying” to conceive? We weren’t. She’s an oopsie πŸ™‚

3. How did you prepare yourself for having a baby? I’m talking PRE-CONCEPTION. We weren’t trying to have a baby so there were no preparations.

4. Do you think you could/should have waited longer to have your first child? Or perhaps think you could/should have started sooner? … How much sooner/longer and why?? Oh yes, I would have waited. I was still in college when I got pregnant. I had to take a year off to give birth and once I finished my bachelor’s, going for my master’s was just out of the question. I would have waited until I was done with graduate school and in a stable career before I even considered having children. In fact, I’m 27 now, and if I hadn’t already had a child, I think this would have been my ideal age.

5. Give any pre-conception advice to us bees who are looking foward to a family of their own one day. Be healthy. Eat well and exercise. Take prenatal vitamins. Read books about pregnancy and parenting. Talk to new parents and ask them about all the difficult stuff. Make sure you discuss the positives AND negatives of being parents with your partner. I see too many people concentrate on the good things about being a parent and refuse to acknowledge that there are things about it that are difficult and unpleasant as well. Then when they’re actually in the situation they can’t handle the negatives because they never even considered them. Babies are little bundles of joy, yes, but they will intrude on your sleep, your love life, your social life, and your ability to be spontaneous, so make sure you’re willing to give those things up for a good long while before you consider becoming a parent.

The topic ‘Parents: 5 questions for you’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors