Post # 1
My boyfriend has always been respectful to my parents. The issue is that my parents don’t like him very much. They have at times been pretty rude. This is especially true with my mom. Their complaint is that they feel like he’s not active enough in church and doesn’t show a strong desire to lead in church. They also don’t like that his family is more laid back when it comes to church and such. My parents travel quite a bit for work and won’t be home for Thanksgiving but will be for Christmas. My fear is that they will end up showing the same rudeness towards my boyfriend as they did last Christmas. This actually resulted in a pretty big argument between my boyfriend and I last Christmas. I’m actually dreading it this year.
How do you think I should approach this with my parents? Should I say nothing and hope everything goes well?
This topic was modified 4 years, 4 months ago by Kacey23.
Post # 2
Do you want him to be more active in church? I am really sorry your parents are judgmental and harsh with him! I would try to ask them to at least treat him nicely and with respect in person even if they don’t feel that way :/ though I would hope that they feel more positively towards him eventually!
Post # 3
Your parents are a perfect example of why so many people dislike church and organized religion. Isn’t the whole point of church to share love and respect other people? Your parents are using it as an excuse to dictate what another person does with their own life.
If you are serious about your boyfriend, you will defend him and not tolerate your parents’ rudeness toward your boyfriend. It’s frankly none of their business how involved or not involved he is.
Post # 4
First I think you need to decide what you think. If you would like him to be more active in church, then you might need to have a calm, collected conversation with him.
If you think things are fine church-wise as they are, then tell your parents that they need to stop being rude and disrespectful towards your boyfriend.