(Closed) Parents are already judging our Budget Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Just ignore her and stick to what you and your fiance want. 

For some reason some family members think that a wedding belongs to everyone in the family and not just the bride and groom. =/

Post # 4
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3242 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had the teensiest wedding ever. And I it was gorgeous. Only people I knew and loved were there and we had a takeaway at my house. Its your wedding. Just smile, be appreciative but say no. Over and over and over again. Thanks, mum but no, for what we are doing we don’t need it. We want a Sunday afternoon wedding. We are excited about a Sunday afternoon wedding. Our wedding will be beautiful as it is. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

remember it’s about the COUPLE and not their families. sure, they play a part somewhat but the day should be spent honoring the love you to have for each other. intimate weddings are beautiful and there is nothing wrong with that! i highly suggest you reading the blog intimateweddings.com they have lots of beautiful brunch weddings on there too 🙂 

Post # 8
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4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

People have a very specific view of what a wedding should look like and seem perplexed and put off by anything outside the box. We didn’t have a budget wedding and still got the side-eye from some family members about a few of our choices.. You’re damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.

In short, fuck em. Your wedding is about you and your Fiance, stick to what you want.. Its going to make you the happiest.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

happenstance:  Dont get caught up in other peoples budgets, or you’ll never be happy. I made the mistake of watching wedding shows the entire time I was trying to plan, and our budget was only 6k. Needless to say I was constantly seeing things I wanted to do, but just couldnt. Haha.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

happenstance:  I think a lot of people have only been to one type of wedding (often Saturday, evening, full dinner, dancing) and to them that says “wedding”, and they can’t imagine doing it any other way.  But just keep doing what your’re doing and what is right for you and your Fiance, and it’ll be awesome.  When they actually show up on the day of and have a good time, it’ll all be fine.  And if people still gripe, that’s on them.  Your wedding will be lovely and classy I’m sure.  Personally I think a brunch wedding sounds AMAZING!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

happenstance: think of your one year, 5 year, 20 year, 50 year wedding anniversary. Who do you think will remember or care about your wedding reception besides you and your husband? Think of birthday parties, holidays, or just regular get togethers that are your favorite memories? I guarantee you what made them so special was the company you were with and not the decor, the time of the day, or the meal you had. Your union with your fiance as husband and wife is a celebration of your love and commitment to each other, and does not entitle ANYONE (but you two if you wish) to a party. People may make you feel bad now, but I guarantee you, after the wedding it wont ever once cross their minds. Do what YOU want, bc it’ll be the day you will think of when you are celebrating anniversaries, milestones, are sad, or even at the end of your life. I think the most beautiful part of a wedding is the vows, the rest is just garnish 😉

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

happenstance:  Ignore them.  It is your wedding, and you are allowed to have it however you want.  Just because you are on a budget does not mean your wedding wont be “better or classy.”  Be true to you and your Fiance, and confident in your choices 🙂 

Post # 13
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12528 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think your plan sounds very elegant and classy!  I’d love to be invited to a wedding like that.  

Post # 14
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1228 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Welcome to the rest of your life, where people think a 1 carat ring is twice as better as a 0.5 carat ring, a bigger house is better than a smaller house, a new BMW is better than your 5 year old Honda.  They can’t wrap their heads around the idea that money can’t buy contentment and mindless consumerism isn’t the road to a better life.  

When it comes to your wedding, do the same thing you’d do for the rest of your life.  Spend exactly what you’re comfortable with and be amused when people are astounded that you’re happy. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I appreciate the offer to contribute Mom. Really. But I need you to understand that we are having this kind of wedding because this is the kind of wedding we want. We simply aren’t *dance all night* people. We like simple and low-key and that is how we want to start our marriage. It would mean a lot to us if you would embrace the kind of wedding we want to have going forward.

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