Post # 1
I’m new around here! Foound this place while googleing some wedding stuff! I will be getting married May 5th, 2012 on the beach!!! My parents are no longer with us and its becoming really hard for me. My mom died when i was 11 (now 21) and my daddy died when i was 18. I have had a very hard childhood. But when i met my fiance, i realized that all the bad that God had put me through was for a reason, that reason was so that i would meet my fiance.
I want to incorperate my parents into our wedding somehow. I plan on doing the picture charm on my bouqae. But i want something more. I want something that everyone will see and feel. While i will be a crying mess that day, my family would love to see or hear something to remember them both.
I know that they will both be with me in spirit i guess i just need that added reminder that they are there.
Any ideas will be greatly appriciated!
Also if any of you have any ideas for a beachy theme could you throw them my way 🙂
Post # 3
First off, HI!!
On to your question. Some people do like memorial candles with pictures of the people who aren’t able to be there that they light. Another idea I have seen is having empty chairs that you lay flowers in where they would have sat in the ceremony. I’m sure the more creative ladies have some other ideas too!
Post # 4
I do like the idea of the placing flowers in their chairs. I think its brilliant.. Having a picture of them placed on a table stand by your side would be a neat idea (:
Post # 5
It will be a difficult day for you! I have the same feeling as you because, my mom passed away and would like for her to be incorporated on the day. It is untraditional but I am going to give a speech on my wedding day and talk about my mom.
Post # 6
During my brother’s wedding they had a prayer for all the deceased relatives, and they named them all. They had my sil aunt read them. This was a Catholic wedding, but not a mass. I am sure this could be worked into a ceremony with a moment of silence also. I also like the memory table.
Post # 7
Thank you girls for the advice. We are having a beach wedding so I think we will place roses in the chairs that would normally be their chairs. We are having a sand ceremony and after that our minister will say an “in memory prayer” and My finance and I will walk to the ocean and throw the roses in and watch them float away (we hope they actually float away) lol.. I also found an adorable poem on here, I think I will get it engraved into a hanckerchif type cloth and wrap it around my bouqet so that they will be with me when i walk down the isle.
if roses grow in heaven
lord please pick a bunch for me
place them in my Mother and Father’s arms
and tell them they’re from me
tell them I love them and miss them
and when they turn and smile
place a kiss upon their cheeks
and hold them for a while
because remembering them is easy
i do it everyday
but there’s an ache within my heart
because i’m missing them today
when everything is said and done
i will cherish this day with a smile
because i know my mommy and daddy are here with me
as i am walking down the aisle
Post # 8
My grandparents who raised me have both passed away and we are doing a video clip with pictures of them and other family members of mine and his and at the end it will say in loving memory of and their names.
Post # 9
@FutureMrsNogueras:That is very sweet.
I love all the ideas you have come up with.
Post # 10
you can also designate some seats for them during the wedding ceremony. parents are usually seated at the front, so you can have pillows or their framed pictures in the seats.
Post # 11
welcome to the beehive x
i am fortunate to have both my parents but my grandmother passed away 2 years ago and i miss dearly .. i too am having a bouquet charm.. although a lot of my fi family will not understand the sentiment i am loaning my nana’s favourite cup and saucer from my mum and she’s being given a seat on my top table as she would if she were still with us. i;m placing one white lily and her cup and saucer at her seat. then my bouquet will be placed on her grave after the wedding i will also be lighting a candle for her and mine and fi’s baby at the church. also when i was carring my little one i had a strange fascination with giraffes (i still don’t know why) my friend is a jewellery maker and she hand making a charm bracelet for me to wear on the big day. it will have a cute little giraffe and a lily on it. (my nan’s name was lily).
Post # 12
First of all welcome to the forum…..I am also new here and can say that all the members here are really helpful and supportive…..
One of my friend did the same thing on her wedding day……She wanted to incorporate her grandparent and what she did was….She reserved two chairs in the first row and place their photographs on the chairs with flowers……You can also do the same thing with your parent’s photograph……
Post # 13
@FutureMrsNogueras: First off CONGRATS!! Im getting married in MB almost 1 year after you! May 3, 2013. I was thinking about your concern with the roses not floating away. What about a wish lantern? You and Fiance can write something on the papers and light the lantern together in the ceremony, after the poem is read you can release the lantern into the sky and watch it float up. At that point people’s thoughts and prayers can follow the lantern to heaven to your parents and those who can not be with you that day.
It is a hard day… I will be missing my Dad that day, but I am glad you found someone to be with, a new adventure awaits while those who love you watch over you.
Post # 14
Welcome to the hive!
Like you, I am an orphan. I’m considering the empty chair with flower for my mom. Our officiant is also going to acknowledge her during the ceremony before we begin our vows. Initially I was afraid of her saying anything because I don’t want to break down while standing there, but it helps to expect it ahead of time.
Post # 15
That is such a lovely poem. I am sorry for the loss of your parents. If the beach is windy would the roses blow off the chairs? Maybe place them on a pillow gently tied on with a ribbon? Take quiet time before you are with your SO to feel and acknowledge your parents there with you. Best Wishes.
Post # 16
Thank you all very much. Your kind words and thoughts really do help! I will probally incorperate everything into my wedding somehow. Since they can’t be there for it i will atleast try and make myself feel like she is!!