(Closed) Parents are not coming. Help!

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think having your best friend do it is a great idea, and a wonderful substitute!  Especially since, in a way, best friends do give us away to our husbands who become our new best friend forever. 



Post # 4
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am very surprised that your family has made that decision. If they can afford to pay for your sisters wedding and attend it, how can they not afford to attend yours? Yeesh!

But I agree with Mrs.C.to.bee, the friend is a wonderful idea. Fiance and I’s parents all live between 1000-9000km away, and at this stage in our life our friends have become our family. There is nothing wrong with your suggestion!

Post # 5
511 posts
Busy bee

Yes to the friend, and no to the family.  Seriously, they think this is okay? Because it isn’t, not even a little bit.


Post # 6
8360 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@crystalrae:  I don’t think it is fair to judge OP’s paretns without knowing all the facts. Maybe all their cash has gone into her sisters wedding because they didn”t anticipate OP changing her date and having her wedding so close.

OP- what is the reason for them not attending? Is it financial? Is it leave related (as in they can’t take anymore time off work without losing their job)? Do you have a good relationship with them? How far/what costs would it be for them to come?

If it was my parents and the reason was financial I would pay for my parents to attend- no ifs buts or whys!

Post # 7
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would definately ask your friend, I’m sure that would mean a lot to the both of you.

I don’t understand why your parents can’t attend your wedding. If it’s almost a year away and it’s financial, isn’t that enough time to save? If it’s a matter of not being able to schedule time off work surely one years advance notice to a boss should be sufficient. Personally no matter the reason I’d be hurt that they can’t come to my wedding.

Post # 8
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Asking your best friend sounds like a great solution. 

Post # 9
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think having your best friend give you away is a great idea. Your friend knows you in and out and would be the next best thing to having your father

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