Post # 1
So, my parents are paying for our wedding (a few things we paid for, but they paid for 90% of it), so I was wondering what kind of a gift should we give them? When I look up ideas I see things like “photo book”, etc… but I cant justify only spending that much since they spent so much! On the other hand though, I know if I spend alot on an ITEM, they might get angry at me haha.. any ideas? Also, my fiance’s parents threw us an engagement party and will be throwing the rehersal dinner, but should we get them a similiar gift, or something smaller? Ahh!
Post # 3
My parents helped out significantly more than my in-laws, so we got them a bigger gift. What do your parents like to do? Can you do a weekend stay at a bed & breakfast for them?
We did gift certificates for restaurants around their area since my parents love to go out to eat. We put GCs to 6 or 7 restaurants in a basket with two bottles of wine and two wine glasses. Sort of like a dinner for two basket.
For my in-laws – they didn’t have a camera, so we bought them a digital camera for paying for the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 4
Get them a spa weekend or something! I did that for my parents for throwing me an engagement party. I got them a hotel room and a spa treatment, for a special package price at the hotel.
Post # 5
We got my parents a little night away. Reservations at a hotel and a gift certificate for dinner. We also called ahead and bought them a bottle of wine for the room. They loved it.
Post # 6
We are gifting both sets of parents with a $200 gift certificate to bnbfinder.com. This site sells gc’s that can be used at hundreds (maybe thousands, I don’t know) of bed and breakfasts all over the country. We live in Upstate, NY, close to the VT border so we assume they’ll probably stay somewhere in VT. Neither set of parents really get away all that often so we wanted to treat them to a mini vacation on us. After they decide when and where they’re going, we’re going to arrange to pay for a nice dinner for them.
ETA: My parents are paying for roughly half of our wedding while FI’s parents are piking up a few things here and there. They will be getting the same gift even though my parents are paying more because we look at it as a thank you for raising us, not just a thank you for paying.
Post # 7
My parents paid for 90% of our wedding, too and they would have been angry if we gave them a bigger gift. They paid for the wedding so we could keep our money and save our money. If we got them a bigger gift, they would have been mad because they wanted to be generous and we would be “wasting” our money on them. So… we did a photo book from Costco and we bought really nice silver frams from Macys and put a few wedding pictures in them and gave them that. They loved it and it was inexpensive.
Post # 8
Wow, i love you guys – you are so fast!! Great ideas! I think a weekend away is perfect! Do you think I can get a certificate somewhere (instead of booking a specific date)?? My dad works on a rotating schedule, so he never knows what days he has off till the beginning of each month.
@desert_teacher: mine too! thats one of the things im nervous about!! but i just wouldnt feel right if I didnt get them something more substantial. I wish there was a way to get something big but it didnt look as big as it was haha…
Post # 9
The bnbfinder gc’s can be used where and whenever they want. They may have an expiration but I’m sure it’s good for atleast a year. Thats the reason we decided to go with them. We didn’t want to decide where our parents went so we left the decision up to them. We’re just paying for it.
Post # 10
We just had a Chart House open up in our area and that is my dad’s favorite restaurant, so we will be giving my parents a gift certificate there. But I am stumped on what to get Future In-Laws. They will be hosting our rehearsal dinner, but live in a very remote are and don’t go out to eat so they would not use a restaurant gift card. And we are either going to give them each an IOU for the wedding album or give it to them for Christmas next year.
Post # 11
@UpstateCait: thanks! i will def look into that!
@LRin2011: restuarent gift certificate might be a good idea too… they do like to go out to eat!
oh yay, im so happy you guys had some ideas, my brain was drawing a huge blank lol
Post # 12
These are all great ideas! Has anyone else done other gifts? I’m super curious now!
Post # 13
Fiance and I got my parents 2 nights in Charleston at a really cute B&B down there for a weekend in late march, they love Charleston and we do too – they helped Fiance plan my engagement down there so i thought what a nice gift – also by coincidence the room is called “The Williams Room” which will be my new last name – it cost me about $400.00 but i felt that was the least i could do for them!
Post # 14
I’m so stuck on these gifts for our parents. I have my mom and step dad and my father. My Fiance has his parents. Everyone has put in toward the wedding, but we are paying the largest portion, and of course money is an issue in getting the gifts. We need to get something for both sets of paretns and my dad (who does not live in the same state as us). Suggestions please!!
P.S. We already got his parents a crystal frame with our engagement pics in it for Christmas. My mom has some too that I printed for her.
Post # 15
@2PeasinaPod: I love this idea. We’ve been racking our brain to get my parents something (since they’re paying for the maj). Inlaws second, us third. But, this idea is perfect!!! They won’t take the stays (since they travel ALL THE TIME I swear!) But, they eat out often and they will definitely enjoy this.
Thanks for the idea!!!
Post # 16
I think we are going to get them a hard back book of the pics of the wedding, and a weekend get-a-way…still up in the air tho!