Post # 1
So when my Fiance (and baby daddy) decided to get married last July my Mom and Step-dad offered to let us have the wedding at their house. They have a beautiful home and a gorgeous backyard (smaller but we only were planning to have a 40 guest wedding). They said if we did that then they would be able to help us out financially more with other things such as my dress, food, and cupcakes. After my Fiance and I talked it over we decided to go with it! I thought it would be so nice to actually have them own our venue because we would not have to go by any timeline or be out by a certain time. I could start setting up and getting things ready the day before or as early as I wanted the day of.
Well now when people ask where our wedding is and we say “parents backyard” we get almost a look of sympathy. I feel like I need to defend it everytime and I know I shouldn’t. We decided to get married there because we wanted to. I get the feeling people aren’t treating it like a real wedding and it’s frustrating me so much!
The only thing that makes me smile is seeing people face when the arrive at our backyard wedding and see how pretty and nice it is!
Sorry for the vent!
Post # 3
@Megan2035: I can understand that. I feel the same way except I feel like Future In-Laws aren’t taking the wedding seriously even though it’s in their backyard. I swear it’s llke they think it’s some birthday party we’re throwing last minute. It’s really upsetting me. I’ve asked Future Mother-In-Law several times to call places and get prices (she’s paying), but she hasn’t even done that. I’m ready to cancel it again.
Post # 4
I love backyard weddings!! My fiance and I were going to have our ceremony in my parent’s backyard as well, and we were inviting over 100 guests! We ended up going with our reception venue just because we didn’t have a backup plan in case it rained. I was disappointed though—I totally understand wanting a backyard wedding. It’s personal, it has meaning, they’re beautiful, and intimate. I say don’t worry about what other people are thinking now. They will get there and see how beautiful and special it is, and how much sentiment is behind the choice. Much better than your standard hotel banquet hall!!
Post # 5
@Megan2035: Aw, sorry you’re getting the brush off from people. I’m sure they’ll get more in the wedding mood as they hear more about the amazing wedding stuff you’ve got planned. I’m also planning a backyard wedding but we’re looking at closer to 200 guests. I think backyard weddings are great. Very personal. And they can definately be dolled up so they look amazing. So just smile and think about how awesome your wedding is going to be!
Post # 6
Well that’s not very nice of them. I’ve seen some beautiful backyard weddings, many of which were much better looking than weddings in other venues I’ve been to. People don’t take my destination wedding very seriously either. When asked we either get responses like “oh you are really going to do that?” or “why would you get married there?”. Don’t feel bad. You can’t please everybody so please yourself!
Post # 7
I’m also having a backyard wedding. If anything backyard weddings take more work than your average ballroom since there is so much maintenance to do. I’m worried about people dressing too casual for it when it’s still a semi formal event!
Post # 8
Thank you guys! I love being able to come here and have people who understand what I’m going through!
Fiance parents acted like we were crazy when we were booking things in February! they said “you have 6 months, wait until July to worry about that.” If we waited then everything would be booked up..seriously it’s not crazy to be planning your wedding 6 months in advance. I just get the feeling they think it’s just some little get together. One of his friends made the comment “so it’s not an actual wedding, I don’t have to dress up or anything?” I about DIED! Yes it’s an actual wedding! And yes it is a little more relaxed and not a total formal event but don’t show up in jeans.
I (along with my mom and MOH) have put so much time, energy, and money into this wedding that I can’t wait for people to see it!
@MsNarwhal: Yes! we spent all last weekend pulling weeds and taking apart an ugly planter box, also started raking the grass to get all the moss out so we can lay dirt this weekend and plant new grass seed! It is MUCH more work then if we just rented a venue. My parents are so happy though because it was the kick-in-the butt they needed to start getting their yard fixed up and they will have a beautiful yard after this wedding is over 🙂