Post # 1
WHy are they eating the kids food? Accroring to my son, who is friends with some of those kids, it’s becasue they have no food at home, and everyone’s always hungry.
I feel helpless. The school says they’re getting involved, but I really want to go out and buy these moms and thier kids a fridge full of food.I have no idea how I can help these moms-but I really want to figure out a way that I can.
It just hurts that it’s happening. No child should go hungry
Post # 3
Can you provide more details? Where is this happening?
Post # 5
Are you part of a parent group? Maybe you could get the PTA/PTO to organize sort of a food bank? Like students/parents could donate food and other parents could apply for assistance? You’d want to keep the receiving side a bit hushed so as not to embarrass them, but if the teachers were willing to put boxes in their room to collect food (and maybe run contests? In my school growing up we always had 2-3 food drives per year where the classrooms that brought in the most cans got a pizza party) and then once a month you could let people come and pick stuff up on a saturday morning or something.
Post # 6
@peachacid: @ My son’s school. I usually go in to help the lunch lady out by passing out milk. My son’s in kindergarden, so they start serving lunch at 11:00, and the teacher comes in at 11:30. I leave when most of the kids waiting in line have their plate and milk open. I don’t stay-the cafertia workers say that it’s disturbing and only they should be there after everyone is settled.
Today i was told by a sad worker that they have a new policy, and I needed to get fingerprints done before I could continue to help. I gladly said yes, and I asked why, she told me that they’re having an issue with parents trying to steal lunches and sneaking food of of their children’s plate.
I asked my son about it, and he said that his friends “Jon and Doe” were always saying they have to share their lunch with their mom + brother at school, becasue they never got to eat at all at home. I asked him again about it and he says that sometimes he shares his snack with Jon and doe, becasue he knows he can eat when he gest home. I leave after 10 minutes, when some kids are still arriving, so i’ve never met these children’s parents.
I immidatly went to the principal, letting her know I wasn’t mad at all, but concered. She assured me she knew of the kids in question and they were handling it as best as they could. I feel like stuffing my son’s backpack with snacks and telling him he can share it with whomever is hungry 🙁
Post # 7
What kind of activities does the PTA do? Maybe there should be a weekly meeting about “healthy eating” where the parents who are better off can provide 1. a healthy meal, and 2. an array of healthy snacks for people to take home…so it’s not blatantly about giving out food.
Post # 8
Beyond just the PTA and a systematic change (which may take some time), why don’t you do just that – start packing an extra snack or two for your son? Don’t tell him why (he may embarress his friends), but put in more food than he’ll eat and see if he starts to share it out with his friends.
Post # 9
I’m part of a service club that has a project that could be of particular help here, at least as far as the basic idea.
It can be called whatever (ours is lunch for little ones) even though it isn’t just lunch. As an organization, we donate different non-perishable food items and they are put into a “pack” that is distributed either at the end of each school day or on Friday nights before going home for the weekend. It has stuff like pudding, canned fruits, chips or crackers, etc. If we know specifically that there is a working microwave we also do things like soup, ravioli, vegetables that can be heated.
In your case, it could be daily and it could be knowing that it will be shared throughout the family, so bigger portions.
ETA: Obviously it would have to be cleared by the administration and it would be helpful if you had others help you as I’m willing to bet more people need this than you’d think.
Post # 10
Some of the schools in our lower income areas have started their own foodbanks. The amount of food that people get from the regular foodbank is miniscule and they can only go every 2 weeks or once a month (I’m not sure which).
They have hot breakfast programs for the kids-no questions asked,
They also have a backpack program where they send food home with the lids for the weekend- things like apples, carrots, nutrigrain bars , juice boxes- things that will help supplement the family’s groceries but just for the child.
It’s so sad that we as nations (Canada and the USA) are reduced to this- hungry people in a first world country. We don’t have nearly the unemployment rate here that some areas do, but it’s still impossible to feed a family nutritiously on what they get for social assistance. Part of the prolem here is that people have to spend so much on housing, that it doesn’t leave them much left over for anything else.
Post # 11
How heartbreaking. Wish I could help, too.
Post # 12
Man, this makes me really sad. Nothing like stories like this to put my own problems in perspective.
I would definitely get involved with the PTA and maybe the school administration or local government in trying to organize some sort of food bank. If you express your concern for struggling local families, you may find a lot of support in the community from people who can help you take action. In the mean time, I would definitely be packing some extra snacks and sandwiches if I could swing it every day.
Post # 13
Is it possible to invite them over for dinner? Since the kids are friends…Or like maybe,
“hey I was canning stuff/cooking/baking extra since I needed to get rid of some stuff before it goes bad so I thought you’d like some…”
Post # 14
@HelleCat: +1 Great idea, why not organize an after school playdate on Friday and provide dinner, maybe invite the paretns to join when they come to pic up the kids? Or just plan from the beginning to have a playdate and dinner with the parents.
Post # 15
@MissFireFlower: Do you have a local food bank that you could volunteer with? Maybe have the school do a food drive and send home a letter with the kids about it that includes the address and hours (ostensibly for donations at other times, so that no parents feel like it is directed at them)?
Post # 16
I’m confused and I don’t mean to be rude… but if there isn’t food at home for the parents isn’t that the kind of thing that foodstamps should be taking care of?