(Closed) Parents banned from cafeteria bc they're eating the kid's food.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you provide more details?  Where is this happening?

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Are you part of a parent group? Maybe you could get the PTA/PTO to organize sort of a food bank? Like students/parents could donate food and other parents could apply for assistance? You’d want to keep the receiving side a bit hushed so as not to embarrass them, but if the teachers were willing to put boxes in their room to collect food (and maybe run contests? In my school growing up we always had 2-3 food drives per year where the classrooms that brought in the most cans got a pizza party) and then once a month you could let people come and pick stuff up on a saturday morning or something.

Post # 7
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

What kind of activities does the PTA do?  Maybe there should be a weekly meeting about “healthy eating” where the parents who are better off can provide 1. a healthy meal, and 2. an array of healthy snacks for people to take home…so it’s not blatantly about giving out food.  

Post # 8
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Beyond just the PTA and a systematic change (which may take some time), why don’t you do just that – start packing an extra snack or two for your son?  Don’t tell him why (he may embarress his friends), but put in more food than he’ll eat and see if he starts to share it out with his friends.

Post # 9
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m part of a service club that has a project that could be of particular help here, at least as far as the basic idea.

It can be called whatever (ours is lunch for little ones) even though it isn’t just lunch. As an organization, we donate different non-perishable food items and they are put into a “pack” that is distributed either at the end of each school day or on Friday nights before going home for the weekend. It has stuff like pudding, canned fruits, chips or crackers, etc. If we know specifically that there is a working microwave we also do things like soup, ravioli, vegetables that can be heated.

In your case, it could be daily and it could be knowing that it will be shared throughout the family, so bigger portions.

ETA: Obviously it would have to be cleared by the administration and it would be helpful if you had others help you as I’m willing to bet more people need this than you’d think.

Post # 10
46372 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some of the schools in our lower income areas have started their own foodbanks. The amount of food that people get from the regular foodbank is miniscule and they can only go every 2 weeks or once a month (I’m not sure which).

They  have hot breakfast programs for the kids-no questions asked,

They also have a backpack program where they send food home with the lids for the weekend- things like apples, carrots, nutrigrain bars , juice boxes- things that will help supplement the family’s groceries but just for the child.

It’s so sad that we as nations (Canada and the USA) are reduced to this- hungry people in a first world country. We don’t have nearly the unemployment rate here that some areas do, but it’s still impossible to feed a family nutritiously on what they get for social assistance. Part of the prolem here is that people have to spend so much on housing, that it doesn’t leave them much left over for anything else.

Post # 11
928 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How heartbreaking. Wish I could help, too. Cry

Post # 12
25 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

Man, this makes me really sad. Nothing like stories like this to put my own problems in perspective.

I would definitely get involved with the PTA and maybe the school administration or local government in trying to organize some sort of food bank. If you express your concern for struggling local families, you may find a lot of support in the community from people who can help you take action. In the mean time, I would definitely be packing some extra snacks and sandwiches if I could swing it every day. 

Post # 13
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Is it possible to invite them over for dinner? Since the kids are friends…Or like maybe,

“hey I was canning stuff/cooking/baking extra since I needed to get rid of some stuff before it goes bad so I thought you’d like some…”

Post # 14
2889 posts
Sugar bee

@HelleCat:  +1 Great idea, why not organize an after school playdate on Friday and provide dinner, maybe invite the paretns to join when they come to pic up the kids? Or just plan from the beginning to have a playdate and dinner with the parents. 

Post # 15
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissFireFlower:  Do you have a local food bank that you could volunteer with? Maybe have the school do a food drive and send home a letter with the kids about it that includes the address and hours (ostensibly for donations at other times, so that no parents feel like it is directed at them)?

Post # 16
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m confused and I don’t mean to be rude… but if there isn’t food at home for the parents isn’t that the kind of thing that foodstamps should be taking care of? 


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