Post # 1
My parents (who are paying for the wedding- aka hosts) have asked for a dance with just the two of them to start, where they then invite everyone to then join them. Has anyone else done this? We’re doing a first dance, and a father/daughter dance already (no mother/son dance). I have never heard of a "host" dance, and I don’t know when it would happen- after father/daughter? I appreciate any help.
Post # 3
I would do it after the father/daughter dance. If the point is for them to invite everyone onto the dance floor and start the dancing, then it makes sense to do it after the other special dances are finished and it’s time to get the party started so that people can stay and dance after they join your parents on the dance floor.
I have heard of a parents’ dance before, but it was under a special circumstance – my friends got married on the date of the bride’s parents’ wedding anniversary, so it was fitting to honour their anniversary with a special dance. But, even though it’s unusual, I think it could be kind of nice especially if you’re skipping a mother/son dance so there won’t be an overwhelming number of special dances for guests to sit through. It’s a small thing to honour your parents’ request if they are paying for the whole wedding.
Post # 4
I’ve seen it, it was the opening dance for the reception.
This wedding group did the father/daughter while the guest had their salads and wine (after the wedding party was introduced, and the first dance had happened), and then the paretns (both sets bride and grooms) went out to dance & they ushered people in. It was quite quick – they were really only out there for 30 seconds alone. it might seem a bit akward and possibly even hurt their feelings of the grooms parents if they did it alone…you know? They too are wedding off a child and that’s what’s most important, over the "who paid for what" thing.
Maybe it wouldn’t hurt asking them exactly why they want to do this and would they be sharing this with the grooms parents? You know sometimes I have a hard time with people trying to take the bride/goorms thunder just so everyone knows they contributed in a large way to an event….not that I think this is what they would be doing, but I always ask a lot of quesitons and tend to be really opionated…lol (right smrtl!? lol )
I think if their intentions are good and totally innocent, they woulnd’t mind sharing it with the grooms parents as well, I know if I was at a wedding where only one set was up there I would wonder where the other set is.