(Closed) Parents Divorced or Together?

posted 10 years ago in Family
  • poll: Are your parents Divorced or still married, what about your SO?

    My parents are married. My SO's parents are still married.

    My parents are married. My SO's parents are divorced.

    My parents are divorced. My SO's parents are still married.

    My parents are divorced. My SO's parents are divorced.

  • Post # 47
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    Helper bee

    I wish you had an “other” option.  My parents divorced each other and are now dating each other again LOL

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My parents are separated and are currently going through a divioce, and FI’s parents got divorced when he was 18. I don’t really think it has affected our perspective on marriage since it is very obvious to us that they were ill suited to marry each other. Both our sets of parents got married at 22 and have told us that if they had waited a few more years things would likely have been quite different.

    As for habits and things we have learned, I think we are both in agreement that our fathers are cautionary tales, we do not want to be anything like them. Even though we love them, we recognise that they would be awful people to be married to. As for the incorporation into the wedding, the Episcopalian church has solved that dilemna for me as they do not believe in the father walking the daughter down the isle. They feel that is akin to giving a piece of meat away. That suits us fine as we will not do the walk and there will be no awkward questions. If I had my Dad walk me, I would feel like I was living a lie based on how I feel he has treated the institution of marriage.

    Post # 49
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Both DH’s and my parents are still happily married!  Our pastor and our marriage counselor both told us numerous times how few couples they see who have both sets of parents still together.  Our parents both really set a great example for us and their relationships are a wonderful model to strive for!

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    There are some interesting scenarios in this thread!

    My mom’s on her 3rd marriage, my Mother-In-Law is on her 2nd, and my Father-In-Law just divorced his 2nd. My father dies when I was young, but my mother was his 2nd wife (divorced), too. 

     

    Post # 51
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Fiance parents will have been married 25 years next year, my mom passed away when my parents were married for 14 years.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My parents split when I was two. Raised by my paternal grandparents. They passed, as well as my dad, so now it’s just my mom. She’s remarried a few times, but is currently single.

    FH’s parents celebrated their 50th anniversary this year! Yay!

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    There are a lot of interesting situations here!  My parents have been divorced for about 15 years after being married for about 12.  My mom has dated a bit but I don’t think she will ever remarry.  She has very low self esteem and she doesn’t believe anyone will love her.  My dad began dating again after a year or two and has been with his second wife for about 12 years.

    FH’s parents are happily married although once several years ago they separated for a brief period.  That was before I knew them; they worked it out and seem fine today.

    The part about habits and upbringing interested me.  FH was spoiled by his mom and I believe as a result, is kind of lazy around the house, or doesn’t care, or is used to someone else doing it.  My mom struggled with depression through my teen years and lost all drive or motivation to keep the house in order.  I think I went the other way bc it bothered me so much that she was like that and became a little bit anal about certain things around the house.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My parents and my FI’s parents have both been married for 23 yrs. It is funny because we are from different countries but our parents got married the same year when both my Fiance and I were two years old. Both sets of my grandparents are also married for over 50 years and so were my great-grandparents.

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