Fotunetly, I do come from a very blessed up bringing. The $17 is not going to break the bank by any means of the word. My parents have always been very good with thier money and savings, something I’ve had the priveldge to learn from them. My mother does not work and has not in over 16 years, which is something my father has worked hard to award her with.. So I understand and apperciate your concern, but thankfully it is a non issue in regards to the wedding.
I have fully emtionally supported her through this process. I never, not once, told her shes making a mistake or that I wouldn’t be there for it. Yes, I have asked her to make sure its something she really wants, but I would think most in my position would. I have had countless conversations with her lending her an open ear, a shoulder to cry on – never once making her feel bad or guilty. So I am not sure where you got that I was being unfair.
As far as my brother goes, he is a very intelligent and independant young man, but still very sensitive, esp when it comes to matters of family. 15 (as of less than a month ago) is still a very vonurable age and I believe whether you 5-55 having your parents divorce is very emotional and hard for all those involved.
In addition, I greatly appreciate my mothers dedication to our family for the past 30 years. BUT by no means has my mother had a hard or tough life. My father has showered her with love and has given her, as all of us, a very privildged life. My mother has been able to do and experince much more than most ever do. I understand that this doesnt make up for wanting to find “true love’, but its not as if my mother has not had a very happy life.
I agree and that she should have the oppertunity to “celebrate” life as a PP stated above, but when you make the choice to have children, you give up your right to be selfish. You have to make sacrifices. They are your first priority at least until the age of 17 or 18 depending on what you consider an adult. And as far as the ‘breaking free” I dont agree with that comment. It sounds like she has had a horrible life and hasnt been held against her will. No one can MAKE her stay. She is a grown woman and can do what she pleases when she wants, reguadless of what I have said. But once again I appreicate her thinking of me and waiting.
Also, if my mother had been feeling this way for such a long time then why wait till right after I get engaged and a wedding date had been set? Why not before?
**Nor have I ever stated that I wished my mother hadn’t confided in me….
This is not the type of discussion I wished to have in reguards to this post, me having to defend my own feelings. I do have the right to feel how I feel, as does everyone else, but to insinuate I have been anything less than supportive, is ludicris.