Post # 1
I have a very weird relationship with my parents. We live in the same town and work in a family business together. I was engaged once and it ended after a year because they hated him and it caused problems. I’ve since started dating someone new and we’ve been together 11 months. He doesn’t want to meet my parents fears they will hate him too. I’ve tried casually mentioning that I have a boyfriend, but short of sitting them down and writing it in crayon, they won’t recognize that. We are getting serious and talking very frequently about an engagement. What do I do about my parents? Make him come meet them and have a big to-do beforehand? Just wait until after we are engaged and break the news?family
Post # 3
I think if you don’t introduce him before you get engaged it will cause some serious problems.
Part of the problem is you have made him scared of them. Which means any meeting you have may not go as well as it would if he weren’t so freaked out. I don’t think you can marry someone without having met their immediate family, or without them at least having heard about them.
What happens if you get engaged and they hate him? Do you break it off? Would you still want to marry him if they hate him after meeting him (before engagement)?
I would tell all parties involved (BF and your parents) that since the relationship has gotten serious, you want them all to meet. Then host a dinner.
After that, feel free to get engaged. I’m not saying they have to approve, but by not introducing them to him, you’re setting things up for them to not like the situation and him. Which you probably wouldn’t be ok with given you’ve already broken one engagement based on their lack of approval of a BF/FI.
Post # 5
Definitely tell you parents about him before hand.