(Closed) Parents driving us bonkers about our destination Wedding!

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

They just invited another couple?  That’s kind of rude.  I know it’s tough but I think you have to tell these peoplpe to make other arrangements.  You should be happy on your wedding day.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Amygirl77:

sorry, you def should not be paying for all of their accomodation.  I would tell you not to offer accomodation to these people, but you already have. 

How about you and your Fiance stay in some other romantic place nearby and leave the grandparents to watch the baby in the house?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your Finance needs to explain to his parents that this is your wedding/honeymoon and that you want privacy.  Period. 

Post # 7
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@MissNoodles: yep, definitely agree with you here!  

sorry you’ve gotta deal with this.  maybe you two could skip off alone and elope (with the baby) and have a reception type dinner with his parents when you get back?  

You should’ve have to share your rental house plus NOT get the master bedroom!  that just isn’t right or fair to you and your Fiance.

Post # 8
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh geez, this is not right! You should not be spending your wedding night in the crappy room at a house with your parents and in-laws, while you are paying! I think it is fair to politely tell them that there is no room at the inn for extras. You offered accomodations for 2, not 4.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with another poster, let them all have them house and let them watch the little one and you 2 get a romantic room nearby. It’s your wedding! You need to enjoy the moment and being newlyweds!! They can all hang out together and you 2 can have your space like you should. That doesn’t mean yall cant get together and do things but you definitely shoudn’t spend your wedding night and week at the beach all in the same house! I would have said no to having them stay with you and yes, its rude for them just to invite another couple to stay in the house but now that its done, I say get your own place!

Post # 10
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Honesty is the best policy! Just tell everyone all of them that its your wedding.. and honeymoon, and you need your own alone/family time. they dont need to be there plenty of people do the Destination Wedding thing. And if they do come.. Its there choice therefore it should deff not be at your expense!! end of story. Good luck!!

Post # 11
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom did this… we are renting a house for our Destination Wedding and my mom has told multiple people that they too could stay there. I FREAKED out at her and probably didn’t handle it as well as I could have (as much as I love my mom she has been a huge source of stress throughout the entire planning process and this just put me over the edge). I told her that she needed to call everyone she talked to and tell them that there has been a misunderstanding and that they cannot stay at the house with us.  She wasn’t happy about it, but she made the calls. 

I think your fiance needs to suck it up and just tell them that the other couples cannot stay.  I’m sure they won’t be happy about it, but they will get it over it, and the last thing you want is to be miserable during your wedding!

Post # 13
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3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Amygirl77: ugh.  Time for your Fiance to suck it up and tell his mom “no way”.

Here’s the reasoning behind it: what’s she doing to do NEXT?  What will her next “if I don’t get what I want, I won’t xxxx” threat be?

My mother pulled the same thing when I suggested the wedding might be in Charlottesville (she hates mountains and you have to cross a set or two before getting there).  Her, I didn’t care about, my DAD, I did.  Which is totally different from when I was a kid!  I’m still wondering if she’ll grumble and growl the whole day at my wedding, since it isn’t in a church or where SHE would want it.  *rolls eyes*

I’m sooo sorry you’ve gotta deal with this, but I definitely think your Fiance needs to take a stand against his mom on this one.  YOU BOTH are renting the house, NOT her.  If she wants to stay there, in the master suite, then SHE needs to rent a house and NOT force you two into this ridicilous situation.

Good luck and I hope it turns out good for you, your Fiance, and baby boy!

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