(Closed) Parents favoring one over the other

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not a parent, so child care and appointments are not an issue, but as a teen, college student, and adult, I’ve noticed that my parents do much more for my younger sister (we’re less than 2 years apart, so it’s not that she’s very young).  What it comes to is that my brother and I are both high achievers and have always been capable of taking care of ourselves.My sister isn’t so much, so my parents seem to try to make up for that.

It used to drive me crazy, it still drives my Fiance crazy when he sees it happen, and it’s still hurtful… but I’ve come to realize that it means they see me as a capable, accomplished individual who doesn’t need their help as much as my sister. I don’t like it, but I think it’s more likely that your parents view you the same way (when compared to your brother). It doesn’t mean they never wanted you.

There’s also a sense in older generations that single fathers aren’t equipped to raise children, so they may be acting on that concept, as well. You’re a woman, so you can handle kids on your own; your brother is a man so he needs help. Not true, but possibly their line of though.

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