- Mrs. Scissors
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
My parents keep changing their story as far as the wedding budget goes. For the most part, they’ve been on a “No budget really, just let us know the things you would like, and we’ll approve it.” This was frustrating for me to begin with, because I don’t like having to go through them for every desicion. Yes, I respect their opinion, etc, but I don’t want to be bound to them for each decision. I would have preferred a set amount in the bank, and then that was all that I got.
I made myself a mental budget, and aimed to shoot for $35-40k for the whole thing, and have been consistantly planning as such.
My mother, however, has been an all out rollercoaster throughout it. One day, it’s “Money is no object, whatever you want!” and the next day is “We don’t want you to spend more than [insert amount that is totally random, unfounded, and not doable at all]” It’s like she has split personalities over it.
It’s really difficult to plan without a set budget, one that you KNOW will not be subject to someone’s whim. Another frustrating thing is that my parents can truly afford to pay for most any amount that the wedding would cost. I think she must just get panicked and go into practical/frugal to the max mode.
Even if they’d told me, “Okay, spend $15k on the wedding” in the beginning, I would have done it. (Or whatever random total, that was just an example). It’s just not doable if she tells me to only spend, let’s say, $25k when I’ve already spent (and it’s been approved!) $12k on just photographer and dj.
I don’t know if I’m just venting or if I’m asking a question. 🙂
Really I am at a loss for what to do. Do I continue planning the way I have been and ignore her crazy budget comments? It’s just exhausting having to deal with that. I feel like a jerk demanding 40 grand or whatever in a bank account solely for the wedding, but at the same time, I don’t know if I can handle having her questioning my every move any more.
I hope this makes sense. I really hope I don’t sound like a spoiled brat. I just would like some thoughts or advice as wth to do. :-/