- 7 years ago
I would definitely talk to my Future-in-laws about everything you described above. Since you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend are serious about getting married and will be engaged soon, your In-Laws need to stick up for you and stand by your side 100% – you wil become their “daughter” once you’re married afterall, and this ex-gf is just a stranger. But I would recommend that your Boyfriend or Best Friend has this talk first….. especially if they’re “old school” then in their minds the actual marriage would seal the deal that you’re part of the family and not before. (the last thing you want to do is “impose” your “will” on them before you have any actual leverage with them.) Once he lays the groundwork (starts the conversation), and then the two of you together sit down and have another candid and completely transparent conversation with them might pack a powerful push to have your In-Laws get off their butt and cut this attachment they have with this ex-gf .
But I totally hear ya! You need a way to protect your relationship from the toxicity of this crazy ex-gf ASAP.