Parents give speeches if they are not paying?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll:
    Yes, both Father of the Bride and Father of the Groom should : (33 votes)
    31 %
    No only if they are paying : (12 votes)
    11 %
    It doesn't really matter : (63 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @sharky:  not typically. Maybe at a rehearsal dinner. 

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    @sharky:  not typically. Maybe at a rehearsal dinner. 

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

    So, are the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man paying for your wedding?

    I don’t know if my father will be attending, and he certainly isn’t paying for it, but should he be there, I would be delighted to have him toast his daughter.  Likewise, my mother and Future Mother-In-Law are both welcome to share their antedotes and blessings for us with our guests if they wish to.

    At the end of the day, this is as big of a deal for our respective parents, and their involvement in our wedding will have absolutely no correlation to their financial contributions whatsoever.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @SeaSalt:  +1

     

    My father gave a speech as well as the FotG. I feel they should as they should be the ones to officially welcome the spouse to the family.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    I don’t know about the States, but in the UK the father of the bride always gives a speech traditionally, whilst the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t usually, and nor does the FOG.

     

    In the UK it’s usually Bridesmaid or Best Man, Groom and FOB who give speeches, although things are changing a bit now, but it’s usually with the addition of a Bride’s speech.

    Post # 10
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    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Why not? If they want to, they should! 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee

    We had a “whoever wants to speak can speak” policy at our wedding. We also didn’t have dancing and there was a lot of socializing so people were free to give a speech. Our guest kept it short so that was good.

    Post # 12
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think you should base this on if they are paying or not :/

    Must weddings I’ve been too the FOB has given a speech and sometimes the FOG gives one. I have no idea who helped pay for those weddings but those speeches are common in my area and I think it’s a little silly to decide this based on who paid.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I had no idea that this had anything to do with who funded the wedding. I’m actually having a speech sign-up sheet so anyone can if they want to 🙂

    Post # 14
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    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I also don’t understand what paying has to do with giving a speech.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    father of the bride almost always give speeches at wedding I have been to…. moh and best man too….

     

    i think we will just be having our father speak since the moh and bm are a delicate subject (prego moh, snubbed brother, lots of hormones etc)

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