(Closed) Parents giving speeches?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think I’ve ever seen the parents give a speech but when I was filling out some forms for my DJ it asked if my dad was giving one. So I asked my dad and he, being very shy, originally said no thanks. Well now my dad has decided to give a speech and it’s a surprise as to what he’s going to say. I’m definitely intrigued now lol

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

There’s always been a FOB speech at all of the weddings I’ve been to.  At the most recent wedding, both of the bride’s parents spoke together.  That doesn’t mean YOU have to do it, though.  

Post # 19
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve seen the FOB give speeches at almost all the wedding I’ve been at and my dad gave one as well. However, that is entirely up to you whether or not he gives a speech. 

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve seen FOB give speeches before, and my dad gave one because he felt bad for my Maid/Matron of Honor, lol. Most of her speech material was “stolen” by the Best Man, so she kind of floundered up there and since my dad has known her forever he made a speech about how close she and I are and then thanked everyone.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@star282:  the parents of the bride typically give a welcome speech, usually a condensed version of the speech from the rehearsal dinner.

 

at my reception, my mom is welcoming everyone and Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are giving toasts.

all other members of the bridal party will have their opporunity to speak the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have seen it done differently at every wedding I’ve been to so I say do what you and those involved feel comfortable with. 

We’ll (most likely…Still really far out!) will have Maid/Matron of Honor (She already said she wants to do one), Best Man (I’m assuming b/c he’s NOT shy LOL) and most likely me! 

Fiance is very shy and so is his father (mom is deceased). I’m thinking of askling his brother to do a toast but he’s a groomsman so maybe it would look weird after the best man? I don’t know.

My father is not shy at all on normal occasions but my mother has passed and my getting married has hit him hard so right now he doesn’t think he can make it through a speech. We’re really far away from the wedding though so he may change his mind 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My dad isn’t giving a speech but FI’s dad is. I don’t think its the norm for parents to speak but not unusual either.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The FOB have been giving a speech at every wedding I’ve been to, both in Canada and in Sweden. In Sweden, it’s also custom that one of the grooms parents give a speech. However, we’ll tell FI’s parents that it’s expected of his dad to deliver their speech… his mum is a drama queen and would hog the microphone if it was ever given to her. 

 

 

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Every wedding I have been to the parents have made a speech. If you don’t want them to then you don’t have to but it’s pretty standard where I’m from. The Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man will make the longer speaches but our parents are both saying a little something too. I think it’s nice so long as it’s not long winded. 

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think typically parents usually do a speech to welcome their new son/daughter in law to the family. Its not supposed to be some long “back when little susie was 2 years old……”. Its more of a “congrats…welcome to the family…cheers to the bride and groom”

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Duncan:  Isn’t it also sexist that the bride doesn’t toast anyone? What, she has no one to thank? LOL

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Grixis857:  Yes, though in our case the bride has no inclination toward giving a speech.  😛  As we are doing with all other traditions, we’re cherry picking the sexist ones we like, too. 😛

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Duncan:  Same thing here. Tried to get her to speak, but no dice.. so I’ll speak for the both of us! 🙂

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My father gave me his speech during our dance, he didn’t say it publicly. It was a lot more special this way.

My husband’s parents both gave speeches and words of wisdom. My mother gave a very brief speech, but my father didn’t do a public to everyone speech.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are having three speeches. The Bridesmaid or Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor and that my Fiance in response. My father will not be at the wedding so there will be no FOB speech. I understand that my Future Father-In-Law wants to give one, but he is a loose cannon and lord alone knows what inappropriate things he will say, so I’m sorry but that will not be happending. Over MOC will receive strict instructions not to open the floor to any other speeches.

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