- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
Hi there, life is so interesting if it aint one thing its another. I recently got proposed to and I am now dreading the one thing Ive dreaded my whole life and that is do you invite both parents to your wedding. My parents are Persian which means they dont handle dysfunction functionally. They got divorced and never spoke to each other ever since, I was 9 at the time. My sister got married never invtied him and I am the glue, I guess and I think I should invite him but he wasnt in my life at all as a child and here as an adult I feel like yelling at them all for not handeling their divorce correctly. They are so selfish and I suffered alot as a result of their divorce and decisions, and I am done being the innocent victim.
Ive never been in the same room at them at once, and if fact we were taught to fear him. How can what is to be the most important day in my life, possibly also be the most frightening. I am afraid of them taking the attention of what is important on that day, in fact it sounds like a night mare. I havent told my father that I am engaged for I dont feel that he is so close to me, but he calls all the time. Im in my thirties, they are in their sixties, yet they never grew up.
Besides telling me to elope, what do I do???
How do you deal with selfish parents who destroyed your childhood by bad decisions, how do you stop it from going forward without being a complete bitch???????