(Closed) Parents Meeting for the first time

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@adorkable: Hey welcome to the bee! Next time, you can just ask the moderators to move it and they will :-).  That way it doesn’t get posted twice. In regards to family, it will always be a little awkward at first. But, I think it will gradually become more comfortable, as everyone has mutual interests (their loved one). While I cannot make any guarantees, I will wish you the best of luck with this and will keep positive thoughts for you :-).

Post # 4
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971 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Our parents knew each other before we were even a couple!  Our high school wasn’t that big and our parents knew each other because of that.  And, because Darling Husband and my brother were teammates and friends, my parents would see DH’s parents at games.  I was lucky in that regard. 

Good luck to you! 

Post # 5
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Welcome!

One thing that I did when our parents met was to have some topics of conversation in my back pocket that I could bring out if things got weird.  For example, if your parents have been on a trip recently and you know that your FH’s parents like traveling, you could bring something up about their trip.  It can be tricky to make it seem like the conversation isn’t canned, but it can be done! 

If all else fails, you can talk about the upcoming wedding.  🙂

I’m sure it will go well.  If you and your FH do your best to be relaxed, I’m sure that both sets of parents will follow suit.

 

Post # 6
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10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our parents have known each other since we first started dating (5 1/2 years ago). My parents have a big Christmas party every year and FI’s whole family comes (his brother and SIL included). His family has a family reunion in the fall and my parents attend (its really more of a party than a reunion since lots of friends are invited). Everyone gets along great. They even get together a few times a year for dinner (without us). 

The only advice I can give you is to steer clear of sensitive topics (religion, politics, etc…) so that way you don’t run of chance of them getting into an argument if certain parties have conflicting views. 

Post # 7
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We did the same thing. Our parents had never met so they both flew to NYC (from CA and TX) for Fiance graduation. Fiance was not nervous at all but I was a wreck so before the met, I set with Fiance and we came up with a list of 5 topic changers that we thought were “safe” and fill the silence (ie golf, Fiance job, school, etc). In the end, there was no awkwardness but it made me feel a lot better going into it!

Post # 9
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@adorkable: It is also good that you picked a location where you are comfortable. I am always more relaxed in places I am comfortable in and know well. Best of luck! Please let us know how it goes :-).

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