(Closed) Parents’ names on invitation question.

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If bride's parents are paying for 75% of the costs, is it only their name on the invite?
    Yes. : (14 votes)
    23 %
    No, you must list the groom's parents if they contributed even a small amount. : (18 votes)
    30 %
    List the groom's parents, but not as hosts of the wedding. : (28 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    173 posts
    Blushing bee

    My parents are also paying for the wedding and I wanted to go the traditional route of having just their names on the invite.  But since it was important to my Fiance to have his mom’s name on it too, we are wording it the same way as your example above – his mom’s name will be on the invite under his name, but it is clear from the wording that my parents are the ones hosting the party – not sharing the duties with her.  🙂

    Post # 4
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We are all contributing to the wedding, his parents, my parents and us.  So we put together with our familes we request your attendance.

    I would say yes they should be included on the invite because you said they are paying for a portion of the wedding reception costs.

    Post # 6
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m planning to include FI’s parents – it’s not traditional, but they will be paying about 25%, and have honestly supported me more than my own parents through college by giving me a steady job and working around my class hours. I just feel it’s the right thing to do. 

    Post # 7
    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would make sure your Fiance is comfortable with the wording.  Just would hate to have tention between the two families over simple wording.

    Post # 8
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee

    My parents paid for most of the wedding but his parents paid for the entire bar bill, plus rehearsal dinner and brunch and other things.  On our invitations we put

    Dr & Mrs Brides Parents

    request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter,




    son of Mr and Mrs Grooms Parents

    That way they were both included but its also obvious that the majority of the wedding was hosted by my parents.  Plus Darling Husband wanted his parents names on the invitations and so did I.

    Post # 9
    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Hmm.. my FI’s parents are paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and my parents everything else and we did:

    Mr. & Mrs. Moderndaisy invite you to witness the marriage of their daughter



    Mr. Moderndaisy

    Son of

    Future Mother-In-Law


    Future Father-In-Law

    We still felt like my parents were the ‘hosts’ of the actual wedding day while his are hosing the Rehearsal Dinner, so we didn’t want it to look like we were all splitting costs.

    Post # 10
    2206 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I like the wording that you have in your post. That still honors them, and it is traditional.

    Post # 11
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I wanted traditional so i have just had my parents on there – but you should do whatever you prefer – its your day x

    Post # 12
    1206 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    We contributed, my parents contributed and his grandma contributed, but I didn’t want his parents to feel left out, and since we contributed the bulk, we worded our invite,

    My name & husbands name

    Together with their parents,

    My parents,

    Husbands parents,

    etc…  I think for your situation, what you have is fine.  Your parents are hosting and that’s clear, but his parents are still mentioned. 

    I am of the mind that even if his parents aren’t contributing and he is on good terms with them, then they should be included on the invite regardless because they are still his parents even though they aren’t contributing to the wedding, they did contribute to make him the man he is today.  Just my .02.

    Post # 13
    396 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Just another person who did exactly what you listed above! My parents are paying for the entire reception, so I wanted to make sure they got the honor of being listed first, but Fiance insisted on his parents being on the invitation, so we did the “son of” line after his name.

    Post # 14
    1246 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    both of our parents are contibuting to the wedding so on our invitiations we wrote “together with our parents” which just sounds nice i think. i think we would have put that even if they didnt contribute because they have really been there for us.

    Post # 15
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I worded our invites the same way the original poster noted – they’re not paying for anything in the wedding in Connecticut but they’ll be helping us pay for a reception back in Ireland (which will require another set of invites-ugh) and they’re very supportive and important to us so I wanted to make sure they’re included.  Not to mention that some people on FI’s side of the guest list might have NO clue who the wedding was for if we didn’t include his parents’ names on the invite. 

    Bottom line though, I’m happy to have both our parents mentioned – it’s a family thing!

    Post # 16
    1212 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think that if Future Father-In-Law says he is from Traditional ‘Bride’s family pays’ etiquette then he really has no right to pipe up if you go with traditional ‘bride family hosting’ invite wording. That said, putting their names on as ‘son of.. Mr and Mrs. groom’s parents’ is nice. It acknowledges them without implying they are paying 50/50.

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