(Closed) Parents Not Wanting Children To Get Married

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

AWWW sounds like she is afraid of the “Empty Nest”syndrome. Her kids will leave wether she likes it or not.Yes she is being overprotective BUT there is nothing you can do. It is sad when your kids don;t need you anymore. I will be happy that my kids are happy, but not everyone is me. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Vikstar:  aww i don’t think she means to come off or be selfish. some women get the empty nest syndrome she does not want to face that they will be leaving her sometime.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Vikstar:  wow she sounds like she would not want that change in her life. if the kids marry and are off living there own lives then you have to face getting older. please i could be wrong but its a big change and a new chapter that not every mother looks forward to. i know it would depress the hell out of me but i would not stop it lol how old id she? 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Vikstar:  yes they will but not the way they are when there single. my mother is going thru the same thing with me and im 40 getting married. its always been me and her she is my best friend but now im getting married and becoming a wife ill always be with my mother but i wont need her the way i have when i was single. its hard letting your child go after you have cared for them for so long loved them healed them sometimes parents need to take care of there children more then there children need to be taken care of lol i know when the day comes that my son gets married its going to be very hard for me. he wont be my baby anymore. my FH tells me all the time to be easy on the taking care of him. hes 11 and runs from me when his friends are around lol it use to hurt my feelings hes always been my lil buddy but now hes getting older and i need to cut the umbilical cord lol im told i fuss and mother him too much.

i just love him so much.

you will see when you have kids its a great joy and a great hurt once they dont need you as much anymore.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I don’t think there is anything you can say, since you don’t have kids of your own and would probably get the “You don’t understand because you are not a mother” schpeil.

But since I have a teenager myself, I’d look at her and tell her to get a grip and get her own life outside of her children. Our job as parents is to raise resilient, self-sufficient, well-adjusted children who have the tools and confoidence to strike out on their own and build their own lives without us. Honestly, I feel bad for her smothered kids. She is depriving them of the opportunity to stand on their own two feet and learn the many lessons that life has to offer them.

 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Vikstar:  and no matter what we will always be there for our children. my son hurts my feelings all the time lol i try not to let it get to me caz right now its not the cool thing to hang with mom and i understand that but i keep close i don’t need him getting the wrong influences in his life so i keep my distance but still keep close. its a hard job lol having kids the worries never ends. and i think about the day when he will marry a beautiful women and leave my nest it brings tears to my eyes lol but he will leave me one day and i am trying to raise a compassionate loving caring respectful gentlemen the will respect a women and when the time comes i will lovingly let my son go. there is an old Italian saying and it goes like this: a son is a son until he gets married a daughter is a daughter forever. i hope that’s not true lol i don’t want my son to be a mama’s boy but i hope he will always need me my advice and friendship and of course love. i think shes just scared at the thought of letting her child go when the time comes.

were all selfish with our time with our children. its a very fine line to walk. to allowing them to grow up.

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