(Closed) Parents not wanting their kid's pictures online

posted 4 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

– You accept or decline the role of flowergirl etc etc on the basis of your relationship with the couple. It doesn’t come with any sort of verbal contract stating “because you accepted X, you must also accept Y”.

– Many people don’t want pictures of their kids on the internet… understandably.

– The contract is between a photographer and their client. They sign a release and negotiate which pictures can and cannot be used for their portfolio (for example, they might say that getting ready photos can be used). However, technically then the photographer has not received any sort of release from the people in those photos other than the couple who paid them. They should take down photos if a person who they did not have a formal relase with requests it, because only the couple consented to have these images used in this way.

Post # 3
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Rachel631:  +1 Just what I was thinking.

Post # 4
261 posts
Helper bee

i think it would rest on the photo rights and who has them.  


but you are right, they should realize being in an event that is professionally photographed means the photos may be posted publiclly.  

Post # 5
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that’s taking it a little far on the parents’ part. I know they have the right to say that, but it’s not like you’re posting child porn of their little darling. Some people are just uptight.

Post # 7
510 posts
Busy bee

How did they request for you to take them down? Was it rude?

Post # 10
510 posts
Busy bee

Then I really don’t understand the defensiveness here. You sound offended that they requested that you take down pictures of their child and that has spurred this little rant. Just because you don’t understand where they’re coming from doesn’t make their concern any less valid. Pictures are often selected and used for scam advertisements, among other things, and they simply want to minimize the risk of that happening to their children, especially when their children are too young to have any say in the spreading of the images.

Post # 11
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Atalanta:  but they are the parents and they get to decide what they think is best in raising their child. Hey, I think 16 year old girls shouldn’t have their butt hanging out their shorts but I’m not their parent so I side eye and move on. 

Post # 12
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Atalanta:  ” As I understand it if I take a picture, it’s mine and I can do whatever I want with it.”

Legally speaking, you are incorrect. The law will vary from country to country or from region to region, but in some countries and some regions then you can be sued. It is especially important to have a signed release if you will be using the photo for profit (for example, to promote a photography business). It is often a breach of copyright to use a photograph for profit without a signed release.

If you are planning to become a professional photographer, I would consult a lawyer about this.

My concern for having pictures online is to do with digital privacy. You never know what other people might do with images, and what consequences it might have.

Post # 13
131 posts
Blushing bee

If this was a school or camp function in my area, parents would be asked if the function was allowed to use them. It’s every person’s right or in this case every guardian’s right to dictate what goes on the Internet, and you cannot post a picture without permission.  Every photographer I have worked with has asked for permission to post.  I have even used vendors that have asked to see pictures of their work in pro pics but turned them down due to parental permission. 

It is far too easy to gather information on people about their every movement.  Picture posting only helps contribute to this and starts an online footprint far before an individual can control it. 

That being said,  this is really not a big deal unless they were belligerent towards you when the request was made.

Post # 14
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Atalanta:  I agree with you. Didn’t it occur to them that you would wedding photos on the internet? Or that lots of strangers (to them) would see photos of her, with or without the internet. They should have thought this through before accepting.

Of course there’s no need to identify the Flower Girl in the photos, which may calm them down a little.

lynnwall23:  As a parent and I always say “yes” to those requests. Anyway, unlike attending a school or camp, the whole point of being a flower girl is to be in pretty photos, so I don’t the analogy quite works. 

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