Post # 76
Rhopalocera: I agree with you!!!
snowball543: this is ONE of the several reasons i dont plan to post ANY pictures of my children on my facebook or even the internet.
If any family or friends want to see their pics, you can either see them in person or i will send a picture to your phone. Even then, i wont send them to any family member/friend because unfortunately many cases of abuse/assault involve family/friends. Yes it is paranoia but its not unfounded and one cannot erase the risk but you can surely reduce it! <br /><br />
OP, sorry most people did not agree with you which might be the opposite of what you were expecting from making this post.
Post # 77
Steampunkbride: I guess I just don’t get why children would have to be so sensored but it’s ok to put a pic of any adult up. No they didn’t give permission, but neither did the adults. Yeah, some say that no pic of anyone should go up without permission, ok, but mos reponses seem totally fine with posting pics of adults. Obviously you wouldn’t get a release form for all the addendents in a wedding, either, so why are children granted so much more respect than adults?
Post # 78
southsun: As far as I know wedding photogs don’t ever give you all the photos they have of you, just a selection they think fit. So you’re most def not the owner of thoes pics, you’ll never even see them.
Post # 79
yumcheez: Thank you. That was an interesting read, and pretty much what I thought was the case. I appreciate that you actually contributed to the convo instead of saying how crazy I am for being so angry and upset (which I never claimed to be). I literally have 5 pages of people telling me to get over it when that wasn’t the issue. WB has seriously gone down the pooper and everyone a freakin zilla. So glad I planned my wedding when this place had people who’d actually read the posts before ordering an attack. But I really digress….Thank you.
Post # 80
Atalanta: Personally I think it’s reasonable to ask adults whether they want their image plastered all over Facebook too. Far too many people assume that a life not lived on social media is, in some bizarre way incomplete.
However, you are surely aware that there are particular sensitivities with posting pictures of children on the internet? Whether or not parents are being overly-sensitive or paranoid is irrelevant.
Also, children are just that, CHILDREN and all the while they are under-age, it is for their parents/guardians to decide whether any pictures of said children are posted on the internet.
Post # 81
Atalanta: “I guess I just don’t get why children would have to be so sensored but it’s ok to put a pic of any adult up. No they didn’t give permission, but neither did the adults.”
Well, as an adult, when I make the choice to go to a wedding, I realize that my picture may end up posted online somewhere. If I’m not OK with that, I can choose not to go. A kid can’t really make that choice, which is why they have parents to make it for them.
On an aside, I personally hate it when I go to a party and people are taking pictures everywhere that I know will ed up on Facebook- I definitely make an effort not to be in the pictures and stay out of the background because I don’t really want those images out there.
Post # 82
Atalanta: “I guess I just don’t get why children would have to be so sensored but it’s ok to put a pic of any adult up. No they didn’t give permission, but neither did the adults. Yeah, some say that no pic of anyone should go up without permission, ok, but mos reponses seem totally fine with posting pics of adults.”
I operate under the premise that it is also rude to post a photo of any adult without their permission. But to answer your question, children have neither the awareness, the social skills, the maturity, nor the knowledge necessary to avoid having their photo posted publicly.
There are many rules and laws that specically protect the youngest members of our society.
Post # 83
ClaudiaKishi: Shouldn’t the same logic work for parents of kids in weddings like FG?
“Well, as an adult, when I make the choice to go to a wedding, I realize that my picture may end up posted online somewhere. If I’m not OK with that, I can choose not to go. A kid can’t really make that choice, which is why they have parents to make it for them.”
<br />As a parent they make that choice.
Post # 84
- Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle
Atalanta: To many posts to read but ill say my bit.. I dont like children being lastere all over the internet! but a formal photo at a wedding or a family photo is acceptable! they could reasonable ask for minimal exposure but it is disapointing for them to refuse after the fact?!..
Post # 85
It really isnt a big deal. I’m getting married in a few months and there’s no way I will post any of my wedding pictures on that piece of crap AKA facebook. I will kindly ask everyone attending the wedding not to post them either. There are other ways of sharing pictures with friends and families than just posting them on facebook. But we are all mature adults so I’m not expecting any issues over that
Post # 86
I haven’t read the whole thread, but I do think parents who don’t want their kids’ pics online are being paranoid and over cautious. Your children are more likely to be abused by a person in your extended family than by a sicko at a playground or off the internet.
That being said, I do respect that different people have different views on social media. I always ask my friends before I post pics of them on FB, and especially so if it’s of their kids. Whatever my views are on the matter, they have the right to decide.
It sucks that you can’t share your wedding pics freely OP, but I’d let it go, and do what the parents want you to.
Post # 87
Someone who takes a picture, especially of a child, regardless of context, needs to be respectful of that person before distributing that image. It’s my personal opinion that people should pull waaaaay back on FB sharing in general to protect their privacy, but I cringe when I see images of children on there, when they’re too young to give consent. A wedding is a family event – not a public one. Anyone posting images of it to their networks should ask and receive explicit permission before doing so.
Post # 88
I don’t think it’s a big deal. The parent has the right to say something. Once a picture is on Facebook it’s facebooks property and they have the rights to it anyway so I can under and why parents wouldn’t want pictures of their kids up there.
I don’t think it’s any different for adults. I can say something if I want a picture taken down, but a child can’t.
Post # 89
Atalanta: “As a parent they make that choice.”
The choice they made was to politely ask to have their request respected and to believe no reasonable person would refuse or have any problem with that.