Post # 1
6 months after I already put down the deposit for the hotel location (with their consent) now they insist that the venue be changed! Why? Because the hotel serves American food. And since we’re Chinese, they really want it to be changed to a more traditional Chinese banquet. They were already fine with the fact that it was going to be American style. Now they are saying that their friends and family will complain that the food is bad or that it’s not enough food as compared to a 10 course meal.
I’ve already put down $1500 for the deposit and they’re saying they will pay be back for it. But I don’t want to change it!
I think my parents
Ahhh…just want to event. They want to talk about it but I do not want to since it’s my wedding! If they had an issue, they should have told me this before I put down the deposit.
Post # 3
I agree they definitely should have brought it up long before now. It’s getting pretty close to your wedding to change your venue. If they are paying for it and you don’t mind changing though, and it would make that much difference to your guests…I would say change it.
But, if you aren’t into it I wouldn’t do it. Is there no way your hotel can serve a more traditional Chinese meal?
Post # 4
Oh no!! Sorry, that sounds super stressful =( Do they not want american food at all, or do they jsut want a chinese banquet? How many people are on your guestlist? I wonder if you could have a banquet the day after/before (rehearsal dinner?) Maybe that way they could get some “tradition” in, and chinese relatives won’t feel llike your wedding is completely nontraditional? Just a thought.
Ours is super small (15 ppl) but i think the day after, we might invite more relatives for two tables of Chinese banquet.
Oh the reason I asked how many ppl you are having is because 1500 could go pretty far toward a not-too-big banquet, so they might be happier with that than throwing the money down the drain.
Post # 5
Maybe you could stall them? Tell them you are sticking with your venue UNLESS you can find another available Chinese venue that will be large enough, in the right location, etc. Then just continue to plan your wedding for the venue you want, and ignore them. When it gets too close to change, tell them that there isn’t time to change the venues and every place is booked already.