Post # 1
To invite or not to invite? I’m going over my list and I realized that one of my Bridesmaids to be (I’m not engaged yet, but will be in Feb!), her Mom and sister are on my C list, and my Maid/Matron of Honor to be’s parents aren’t even on my list. I grew up with the bridesmaid, she would have been my Maid/Matron of Honor except for the fact that she now lives several states away, and I went to HS with the Maid/Matron of Honor and have seen her parents about 20 times in my lifetime. Not that I don’t like them, I just didn’t think to put them on my list of people that I’d like to be there. But now that I’m getting a list together for my Maid/Matron of Honor (we were talking potential Shower list earlier) I realized it would be awkward putting the Bridesmaid’s parents on there but not hers. What do you bees suggest?
Post # 3
I had two bridesmaids and a matron of honor. I am close with my bridesmaids’ parents because I’ve been around them a lot. I grew up with my two bridesmaids and went to school with them. They are also sisters in law (one bridesmaid is married to other bridesmaid’s brother). I invited their parents, but not my matron of honor’s. Even though I know them well and have spent time with them, my matron of honor was my college roommate for four years, and her parents live out of state. I just don’t see them like I do the others.
Oh, and my parents were invited to one bridesmaid’s wedding and not my matron of honor’s. Other bridesmaid isn’t married yet.
Post # 4
I’m inviting the parents of two of my bridesmaids, as they are family friends and I’m very familiar with both of them; one of the mother’s of a bridesmaid is also doing our photography!
The other two of mine I know very recently from a new town and don’t know their parents, so they’re not invited.
Post # 5
We invited parents of all the bridal party. We had 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen and 1 usher, 4 of them were family, so obviously their parents where invited. The others were very close friends and we are close to their parents as well, so they were all invited. Oddly enough one of my BMs mom was one of the most emotional people at the wedding.
If you’re not close with their parents, I don’t really see a need to invite them, unless you have the space and budget for it. In that case, I think it would be a nice gesture.
Post # 6
I had six bridesmaids, but I only invited the parents of two. One Bridesmaid or Best Man was the sister of the groom, so I guess I kind of sort of had to invite them. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man whose parents were invited is a girl I grew up with. Her parents are my brother’s godparents, and my parents are her sister’s. My parents were invited to this BM’s wedding a couple years ago. Her parents are as good as family, and there’s no way I could have not invited them.
As for my MOH’s parents and the parents of the remaining three BMs? No way. I’ve either never met or only once briefly met the parents of two of them. I’ve met the parents of my Maid/Matron of Honor and the other Bridesmaid or Best Man several times, but we’re not close. I briefly considered inviting my MOH’s parents, since my Maid/Matron of Honor hosted my bridal shower at their house, but after discussing it with my Maid/Matron of Honor, we decided it would be weird.
In short: invite your BMs’ parents if they are close to you and you want them there. Don’t if they aren’t.
Another easy way to decide: Are you Facebook friends with your BMs’ parents? If so, then consider inviting them. If not, you’re almost certainly not close to them, so don’t. 🙂
Post # 7
If you feel closer to one set of parents than another it’s fine! The only reason I could see this being an issue is if the parents know each other. Do they?
Post # 8
We invited parents of the bridal party that I was close to or that my mom was friends with. One of my bridesmaids, I didn’t even know her parents and had never even met them, so they were not invited. One of my bridesmaids, her dad was a vendor. Another one, her parents live in a different country so weren’t in attendance obviously. Two of my bridesmaids were cousins and their parents were there, one of my bridesmaids was the daughter of my mom’s best friend, another is the daughter of close family friends who would’ve been invited regardless of the bridal party. The last bridesmaid I also barely know her parents so they were not invited. I’m in a wedding tomorrow and my mom (parents are divorced, my dad doesn’t know my friends) was not invited.
Post # 9
@GreenEyedMoon: Another easy way to decide: Are you Facebook friends with your BMs’ parents? If so, then consider inviting them. If not, you’re almost certainly not close to them, so don’t. 🙂
I like that! I am friends with both of my BM’s parents on FB (one is a cousin, the other I’ve known since I was 3) However, MOH’s Parents haven’t joined FB lol But I think if they were on FB I probably wouldn’t go out of my way to befriend them lol. Ah how times have changed!
@AlwaysSunny: No, none of my Bridal Party’s parents know each other.
I think I’m gonna put my MOH’s parents on the C List like my BM’s Mom and Sis. Then if I have room I can invite both families and everyone will be happy.
Post # 10
Personally I don’t think your MOh should expect an invite when you don’t really have a relationship with their family.
I been to and in a lot of weddings. Sometimes other members of the bridal party family are invited and mine aren’t. I never take offensive. I think it’s reasonable for you to invite her parents who sound like family friends and not your Maid/Matron of Honor. My cousin, and two childhood friends parents are invited. Again because we met as children so our parents all know each other pretty well, and in some cases still live next door to each other.
My Parents even get invited to classmate/ childhood friends weddings which my brothers and I don’t get invited too. So it’s just a case by case situation. If your Moh ask you can tell her, or explain to her before she ask.
Post # 11
If you’re not good friends with the MOH’s parents then I see no reason to invite them. The BM’s parents are getting invited because they are family friends, not because they are parents of the Bridesmaid or Best Man.
I’ve certainly never heard of any (reputable) etiquette that you must invite the parents of bridal party members.
Post # 12
We had 7 attendants. Two were our siblings, so parents were invited by default. My two best friends from highschool’s parents referred to me as “daughter #3” so they were invited as well. DH’s friend is now married to his sister, and they all grew up together, so his parents were invited. His other two groomsmen were newer friends from work, and we’d never met either of them so they were not.
Post # 13
Thanks ladies! Your input has been very helpful!
Post # 14
On a side note….we also invited my husband’s brother’s girlfriend’s parents….we celebrate holidays with them and they’ll probably be my brother in law’s inlaws someday, so we didn’t want to leave them out. They came all the way from Connecticut whereas lots of my husband’s extended family couldn’t be bothered to. Just use your best judgment and you can’t go wrong.