(Closed) parents of same gender, close-ish in age children… why do you do this??

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think sometimes, especially in those “family outing” situations in crowds, people will dress the group alike so they can easily identify and keep track of their kids.

Typically, I dislike matchy-matchy stuff and being compared/equated to siblings so I get what you mean!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I see this, too, and don’t get it. I’m not a parent, but I feel all siblings should be dressed differently, twins or not, unless the children want to be matching.

I know a family that has four girls and a boy and they all wore matching probably until the oldest was about 12, the youngest (the boy) being 2. The boy was in “boy’s” clothing, but masculine forms of his older sisters’ clothing. I can tell you, now, these siblings hate looking at pictures where they are matching and the parents do regret it. It was, “At the time, it seemed so cute! But now, such a bad idea.” This family started doing it with church outfits and it just overlapped into everyday life. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My mom did this to me and my sister because she said it helped her find us – she just had to make sure she saw two children in the same outfit.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m not a parent so I have no idea, but I have known several people who dressed their kids exactly alike, even to the point where they were old enough to say “mom, I want to wear this instead”. They were brother and sister and anytime you saw them they would be wearing matchy outfits. This happened up until the girl was around 12 and her brother was 10. 

I imagine it’s just easier if you have smaller children but after they reach a certain age I don’t see a point in it. Especially if they are old enough to pick out their own outfits.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I am not a fan of matching outfits…even on twins!  

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If it’s the tourists then yea – they probably want to be able to see and count all their kids in a split second. And I can’t argue with that.

If it’s the locals – I dunno – that’s pretty weird. Watch out for those ones. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@bostongirl27:  I don’t know why and it probably makes me a shitty person but I totally “lol’ed” at —> “(if one kid disappears while out you can tell the cops “he looked just like this but 1 year younger!”?)”

I’m not a parent so I can’t comment from a first hand perspective but I totally agree with you. I can kind of get dressing your kids similar for family pictures or whatever (even though I don’t think I’d personally do it) but WHY do they have to look like carbon copies out in public? I don’t think I’ve ever seen siblings dressed a like and thought “Oh, that’s cute”. Normally my mind goes to “Why did she buy 4 of the same stupid outfit?”. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My sister and I are a year apart and were always dressed the same way when we were little.  I don’t think we ever cared one way or the other, my mom just thought we looked cute.  I’ve definitely never felt like I was lacking my own identity because we were dressed alike or anything lol!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I know a lot of people do this in “high traffic” areas (like Disney World, museums, etc) so that they can spot each other quickly. If the whole family is all wearing purple, you can be on the look out for purple shirts and count heads quickly ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My mom dressed me and my sister in similar outfits because she thought it was cute. I agree. I love the pictures of me and my sis together in our matchy dresses and pig tails! Even in the same dress we had VERY different personalities! I don’t believe my clothes made me who I am.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

People do that for everyday? I have 3 brothers and am the only girl, so I never *really* matched, but my mom would have us match or coordinate for Christmas pictures until we were old enough to put a stop to it.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@bostongirl27:  I have two girls, two years apart (4 and 6).  Sometimes I put them in identical outfits or coordinating outfits.  The reason we do it is because they are in a stage in which they enjoy matching.  When they stop enjoying it we will stop doing it.  I have to admit that it cuts down on the arguements when they can wear the same thing.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This made  me laugh. I agree it’s really annoying seeing that. I will NEVER do this to my children.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

My mom used to dress all five of us girls in matching outfits sometimes.  I think it was just easier to track everyone when there was a big group of us out and about, plus I’m sure it kinda streamlined the morning process; getting five little girls ready in the morning was a big challenge!

Is it wrong that I totally want to dress my daughter and son in coordinating outfits sometimes?  I just bought them coordinating outfits for a wedding we’re going to this weekend (navy blue and white polka dotted dress for DD; navy blue polo for DS, with a tiny white bowtie and little white baby chinos), and for Halloween, I really want DD to go as “Mary” and DS to go as “Little Lamb.”  ๐Ÿ™‚  My husband vetoed that idea, but I might still be able to win him over…

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