(Closed) Parents on invitations??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

We did not include either parents on the invitation, as we paid for and planned our wedding ourselves. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I left our families off our invites, because we are grown adults hosting our own wedding.

Traditionally, if the parents aren’t paying you are supposed to write “together with their families,” but that would have been a lie in our case. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just put bride and groom, together with their families – short and sweet, everyone is covered!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say it doesn’t matter. Some parents feel lik it’s important to have their names others don’t care. I know also there are a vast array of arrangements that come with people paying weddings and so it’s not always reflecting on the invites. I have had friends who paid for the wedding on their own and put parents, I had a friend who parents were divorce and she felt it was too complicated and so she left their names out of it, and they both helped payed for it. I would speak to your parents and Fi and hopefully come to a choice that everyone is comfortable with.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is my understanding that, according to etiquette, you only put parents on the invitation if they are hosting in some capacity.  For example, if you parents are hosting/ paying for the whole thing, it might say “Mr. and Mrs. Parents request the pleasure of your company and the marriage of their daughter, Bride, to Groom….”  of if they are helping but you are also paying, you might use “Together with their parents.”  If it’s just you and your Fiance paying/ hosting the whole thing, then it doesn’t make sense for the parents to be the ones officially extending an invitation to guests.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My parents did the same thing, we paid for the wedding but my parents gave us money as a gift. And we didn’t put them on the invites, they didnt seem to mind.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Neither of our parents are helping with the wedding.  And instead of going with the traditional bride and groom hosting, we are putting our kids as hosting. Granted they are all under the age of 4 but I think it just adds a specialness to it.  We are even including them in the sand ceremony.

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