Post # 17
One thing that would be interesting to know is those that said Yes, would be to know what age their child or children are now. I would guess that in the begining there would be a lot more doubt/regret as you are adjusting to a new normal of becoming a parent for the first time or dealing with a new born stage all over again if you have more than one.
Post # 18
See this makes sense to me as a reason for regretting having children because its making life harder for your child as well as yourself. Thanks for your contribution, it’s nice to see both sides in the conversation!
Post # 19
you can seem them without voting… just click “show poll results”
Post # 20
No, I dont. I was terrified I would though, to be perfectly honest. I thought people who said how much they loved it were full of it and lying. But I do not regret it, not one bit, not for a second. He brings so much joy, richness and fun to my life and to that of our family. I still worry if I will regret having another though 🙂
Post # 21
Can’t you just click “See Poll Results”
Post # 22
No! I was meant to be a mother and I knew that my entire life.
Post # 23
No way, could never regret having him. He’s five months old now and I am so thankful he’s in my life! However, if it were possible I would have delayed having him like four years. But oh well, such is life.
Post # 24
I agree. I think this would get overheated quickly if they were to come out of the woodworks
Post # 25
I don’t regret my daughter at all. Do I wish the circumstances had been different? 100% yes. I wish I hadn’t had her with my douchebag ex, but if I didn’t, she wouldn’t be the same person. Do I regret having her before I was truly ready for a child? Yes. I wish I had more patience/was a bit older [20 when she was born]. I wish I could have had the exact same child with my now Fiance, but it’s impossible since it’s my DNA and her bio father’s that made her.
I have to say though, sometimes I feel like I missed out on a lot of things in life. I hate to admit it, but I wish I could have some alone time with me and Fiance or an easier time hanging out with friends. None of them have kids. I feel bad that Fiance and I will never have just the two of us. No spontaneous trips, no sex all over the house whenever we want, no time where it’s just me and him. I can’t change that, so I try not to think of it.
I use this analogy sometimes. I feel like my life is a book. I was on chapter 10-ish when I found out I was pregnant. I feel like instead of continuing onto chaper 11 like I was supposed to, I skipped ahead to chapter 22. I missed a lot of things that people my age do. Parties, jobs, marriage first, etc.
But, after all is said and done, I love her more than I could have imagined, and I don’t regret her being in my life.
Post # 26
ha for some reason sometimes when I click on that it just doesn’t repond…so I’d rather vote, seems to work better 🙂
Post # 27
OMG is she sleeping now? Did that get taken care of? Sorry to thread jack, but the early issues can make a woman crazy. I know I was a diffrent person. My first marriage to her father ended during the first year of parenthood. I feel so totally different now, it’s insane. I also don’t function on no sleep, but you seem to have had it to an extreme. I hope it got better for you!!
Post # 28
I will answer honestly…sometimes. I love my children more than anything and would give my life for them but I do sometimes wonder what life would be like. I think about alone time, more vacations, more spontaneity. Again now that I have my girls I wouldn’t trade my life, I stay home with them and they have changed my life for the better. I did become a mom at a young age though and it was in a marriage that was not good and that may have something to do with it. I know it’s selfish and horrible but it’s honest. And I can honestly say I would NEVER let my children feel they were regrets, becasue THEY are not regrets some of my CHOICES are.
Post # 29
You need a license to drive and I think you should need a license to breed. There are way too many irresponsible parents out there and way too many people having way too many kids. I just wish that more people would stop to think about how having kids helps contribute to the destruction of our planet. Don’t parents worry about jobs and resources when their babies are all grown up? We don’t live in the same world that our grandparents did. I did not participate in the poll but I do not plan on having kids for these very reasons. I rescued a dog instead!
Post # 30
I have a seven month old little girl and I do not regret for a moment having her! THe timing was perfect and she was and is a blessing.
You may get a different answer out of me in 13 years though… haha
Post # 31
She is four now. Life is good. It really was a hellish couple of years, but she is perfect and I can’t imagine not having her in my life.