(Closed) parents only: do you regret having children?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Do you regret having a child or children?

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  • Post # 77
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I have one 20 month old, and I love him dearly and am so glad I had him. We’re expecting number 2 in about 5 weeks. We’ll see if I regret having two so close together, ha!

    But, of course there are times when I think of my old life longingly, and sort of get bummed that I don’t have as much quality alone time with my husband, or that I had to leave a full time job, or that we can’t travel quite as much, or heck, even that I can’t or don’t put as much effort into my hobbies and even just getting dressed in the morning. But that’s not to say I regret my decision – I waited until my 30s to have kids so that I could feel like I lived a bit of life first, but the irony is you get used to that and then miss it.

     

    Post # 78
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    @NJmeetsBX:  I agree with you 100%, there are a lot of mothers out there that constantly complain about how hard being a mom is, but when asked if they would do things different they preach how great motherhood is or they are the next one of the friends who are pregnant again. I just shake my head, you thought it was hard before, so ya go get pregnant again? Things that make me go umm… It is too bad that a lot of moms wear rose-colored glasses while describing motherhood to women who don’t yet have children, trying to convince them it is great. A little honesty can go a long way. It’s better to make an informed decision than just to have the attitude, “Well, our kids can grow up and be friends like we are, wouldn’t that be great?” —that is not a reason to have a baby.

    Post # 79
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I could never say I regret my boys but motherhood is so much harder than I ever imagined. One of my sons had OCD&ADHD and some days I want to give up. It’s really draining but my love for him is enough to get me through my darkest days.

    Regret having him NO never. He has helped make me a stronger person.

    Post # 80
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    OP, I know women who really regret having their children and have told me multiple times that I should never have kids. So it happens for sure. 

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    @BothCoasts:  I’m also pregnant, and this thread is terrifying. I love my LO already I would die if anything happened to my peanut BUT I am now 10000x more nervous. Now I’m going to go eat a tub of ice cream…

    Post # 81
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I think I can safely say that if I never have children, I will still be happy with my life.  But Fiance wants kids, and sometimes I worry that I will regret having them.  I think too many people decide to have kids as if it’s a small decision, or the answer is obvious.

    Post # 82
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

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    @Mopsie1:  A single medium sized dog takes up the same amount of resources in a year as a gas guzzling SUV, so you’re hardly leaving no impact on the planet yourself. 

    Post # 83
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    This is a really interesting post. I have no children, but one of my best friends has two, and she regrets them both. When I was pregnant a few years ago, she asked if what I was going to do. I said I’d keep my child and raise it, and she told me to be sure. She said she loved both her children dearly, but almost every day she regrets that she chose not to have abortions. I was shocked to hear her say that, but I appreciate what she was trying to tell me about thinking about this long and hard. I had a miscarriage, so in the end there was nothing to think about for myself… but I think about her and her regret. She’s a very good mother, actually, but I know she struggles in a lot of ways.

    Post # 84
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    Sugar bee

    @mirabell35:  I love my daughter more then life itself and wouldn’t trade her for the world, but I got pregnant when I was 19!! And to top it off it was like a casual hook up and her dad is a dick that I have to deal with for the rest of my life. I wish I would hhave waited to have kids till I was at least done with my undergrad.

    Post # 85
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    Sugar bee

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    @TheJeanses2012:  +1, so much harder then people think. Almost funny how different it really is!

    Post # 85
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: September 2007

    I regret every single day of my life, I have a 7 and 6 years old daughters, I planed them, my life is misserable since then, I’m always angry about everything, I don’t own my life anymore, everything is about what they want, what they need, always running to be on time, always cleaning and it seems a neverending thing, and the 80% of the money is to support them, if they werent hear my husband and I could be living an  opulent life, but no, as long as they grow they need more and more! I whish I never have them!! 

    Post # 86
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

    I have one son. He is almost 11 months old and he is one thing that I could never regret. Don’t get me wrong – it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. We’ve had some hard times already and I’m sure there’ll be more to come. We’ve sacraficed a lot for our little boy but we wouldn’t have it any other way.

    Post # 87
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    Blushing bee

    I wish I never would have told my sons father I was pregnant. I regret he Has a huge pile for a father. But him being here lead me to my Boyfriend or Best Friend. So in a way I don’t regret that either. I just wish I could have him without then6 4 douche nozzle that is the other half do his DNA

    Post # 88
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    Buzzing bee

    My grandmother regrets having her 3 children. She only got married because she was pregnant, and then had the 2nd because ‘birth control wasn’t used by married women back then’, and she says her husband forced himself on her and resulted in baby#3. Her husband was abusive and drank alot, so she ended up divorcing and left all 3 kids with him. She barely kept relationships with her children until they were adults and and she doesn’t enjoy visiting with the grandchildren; it’s very obvious she just does not like children.

    Post # 89
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I always felt I would have been happy with or without children.  I was pretty nervous when I got pregnant honestly (such a huge change).  I LOVE having my daughter and if I had the $$ I would have 3 more lol.  Mine is only 6.5 mo so I haven’t gotten very far into it, not sure if my opinion will change when she’s a toddler, haha 🙂  It is definitely hard sometimes, but I love it and wouldn’t trade it for anything. 

    I’d definitely rather have her than the $250k in cash it costs to raise a child (my Brother-In-Law told DH that it costs that much to raise a baby and they’re so expensive which is why he’s never having one- DH told him that he’d rather have the baby than that $250k lol).

    Post # 90
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My daughter was a surprise honeymoon baby. I have zero regrets.

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