Post # 1
There is this boy who started approaching me from few months. He is 5 years younger to me. Even after knowing my age, he kept approaching me. Recently I also developed deep feelings for him. We confessed each other and immediately he told this to his parents. His parents strongly opposed our relation for age difference. I am 33 and he is 28. After this, he immediately broke the relationship. Now I wonder, does he really truly loves me and wanted to be with me? I have seen people convincing their parents for months and years. But this guy gave up immediately. I have started doubting his feelings now. Now I am deeply involved and cant be just friends with him. What should I do? should I break all the ties with him?
Post # 2
If he broke up with you because his parents said so you are much better off. Break your ties with him and move on tot he next one.
Post # 3
If he broke up with you then he doesn’t love you enough.
Post # 4
He chose his parents. Wait for someone who chooses you.
Post # 5
He’s too young if he needs his parents approval to date you. Very telling that you refer to him as a “boy”. At that age he should be a man who doesn’t need mom and dad’s seal of approval for his girlfriends.
Post # 6
when you said age difference I thought you were goign to say something like 20 years, not 5. 5 is really negligible, in my opinion.
If your boyfriend breaks up with you because his PARENTS aren’t comfortable with a 5 year age difference…. then he’s still tied to them in an unhealthy way. I think you are dodging a bullet here. Let this one go!
Post # 7
rinko21 : I would not have guessed that you were 33 from your post…
33 and 28 is not a big age gap, it almost sounds like he made an excuse to break up with you or something. I just can’t imagine any logical person thinking that age gap, at those specific ages is bad.
How long were you together before he broke up with you?
Post # 8
This is so strange to me. You guys are the exact same ages my husband and I were when we met and nobody batted an eye about our age difference. I’m wondering if there are cultural differences, where are you from?
Post # 9
rinko21 : 28 and 33 is not a significant age gap. 13 and 18, yes. 16 and 21, yes. Even 18 and 23 could be questionable. But there is absolutely no developmental difference between a healthy “normal” 28 year old and a healthy “normal” 33 year old. It’s weird that his parents objected, but his response is even weirder. Either he doesn’t love you enough to stand up to his parents, or they are right and he is not mentally mature enough to be in a relationship. In either case, you should move on. I would not try to be “just friends” — what would be the point? Just cut all ties and find someone who deserves you.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t even consider you having age difference. Clearly he is not mature enough to be in a relationship since he lets his parents dictate his relationships with a ridiculous reasons. You dodged a bullet. Time to forget about him.
Post # 11
“Boy”? Are you sure you aren’t 13 and 8, respectively?
Post # 12
When your sentence starts out with “approached by a boy”, you’ve pretty much indicated the problem.
Post # 13
I think you guys are reading too much into the “boy” comment. Fairly certain English is not OP’s first language so some nuance might be missing.
Post # 14
In theory, 28 is an adult, but anyone whose parents are dictating their behaviors (whether 28, 38 or 48) isn’t enough of an adult to be worth the effort of being in a relationship with him.
It sounds like you were hoping for more from him and it’s unfortunate he wasn’t strong enough to oppose his parents- but it’s also good that if he’s going to be a punk, he did it now rather than later.
Post # 15
desertgypsy : thanks for reply. I am from India. So yes maybe cultural difference. Seems that his parents are worried about my age and upcoming pregnancy issues due to age.
Sorry to ask you but, did you guys face such problem???