Parents Opposition for age difference

posted 6 months ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

If he broke up with you because his parents said so you are much better off. Break your ties with him and move on tot he next one.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

If he broke up with you then he doesn’t love you enough. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

He chose his parents. Wait for someone who chooses you. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee

He’s too young if he needs his parents approval to date you. Very telling that you refer to him as a “boy”. At that age he should be a man who doesn’t need mom and dad’s seal of approval for his girlfriends.

Next!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

when you said age difference I thought you were goign to say something like 20 years, not 5. 5 is really negligible, in my opinion. 

If your boyfriend breaks up with you because his PARENTS aren’t comfortable with a 5 year age difference…. then he’s still tied to them in an unhealthy way. I think you are dodging a bullet here. Let this one go!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

rinko21 :  I would not have guessed that you were 33 from your post…

33 and 28 is not a big age gap, it almost sounds like he made an excuse to break up with you or something. I just can’t imagine any logical person thinking that age gap, at those specific ages is bad. 

How long were you together before he broke up with you?

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

This is so strange to me. You guys are the exact same ages my husband and I were when we met and nobody batted an eye about our age difference. I’m wondering if there are cultural differences, where are you from? 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

rinko21 :  28 and 33 is not a significant age gap. 13 and 18, yes. 16 and 21, yes. Even 18 and 23 could be questionable. But there is absolutely no developmental difference between a healthy “normal” 28 year old and a healthy “normal” 33 year old. It’s weird that his parents objected, but his response is even weirder. Either he doesn’t love you enough to stand up to his parents, or they are right and he is not mentally mature enough to be in a relationship. In either case, you should move on. I would not try to be “just friends” — what would be the point? Just cut all ties and find someone who deserves you.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I wouldn’t even consider you having age difference. Clearly he is not mature enough to be in a relationship since he lets his parents dictate his relationships with a ridiculous reasons. You dodged a bullet. Time to forget about him.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

“Boy”?  Are you sure you aren’t 13 and 8, respectively?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

When your sentence starts out with “approached by a boy”, you’ve pretty much indicated the problem.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I think you guys are reading too much into the “boy” comment. Fairly certain English is not OP’s first language so some nuance might be missing.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

In theory, 28 is an adult, but anyone whose parents are dictating their behaviors (whether 28, 38 or 48) isn’t enough of an adult to be worth the effort of being in a relationship with him.

It sounds like you were hoping for more from him and it’s unfortunate he wasn’t strong enough to oppose his parents- but it’s also good that if he’s going to be a punk, he did it now rather than later.

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