(Closed) Parents paying for it?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I think you would need to talk with your parents about that. Since they’re footing the entire bill, sit down with them and ask what your budget is and start allocating expenses using that. Anything over the budget would be your responsibility.

Post # 4
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

You’d have to figure that out with your parents.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d say definitely discuss this with them. See what they’re planning on paying for and what their budget is before you start booking anything.
My parents are paying for the majority of my wedding as well, but we agreed that my Fiance and I would pay for our attire, hair, makeup, our wedding bands, gifts for the bridal party, our hotel, and our honeymoon by ourselves.
My parents and I also worked out a busget for hiring vendors. Anything we went over on, I’m trying to convince them to let me cover. I’m their only girl too, so you know how that goes. 😉

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@2PeasinaPod: Agreed. My parents are also paying for our entire wedding, and gave us a budget of $40K. Anything above and beyond that for the “extras” they don’t deem necessary, are me and FI’s responsibility. So far we’ve paid for our uplighting, and to have fried dough served at the end of the evening, appox an extra $2400.

Definitely sit down graciously with your parents and ask their budget and start figuring out the cost of things. Never forget you’re very lucky they’re doing this for you!! Good luck 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Yeah that will depend on what your parents think it means. My parents are paying for our wedding and for me, that means all the big things. So far I’ve paid for my dress, the limo, and lots of small odds and ends – programs, Out of Town welcome bags, etc. My parents are really picking up the bulk of everything though.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s only a question your parents can answer.

If you want to see what is traditionally paid for by your parents, check out an Emily Post book.

My parents are paying for everything traditionally paid for by the bride’s parents. And my Future In-Laws are paying for everything traditionally paid for by the groom’s parents.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: Usually just the rehearsal dinner, sometimes the band.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Anxiouspeanut: I think Grooms’ parents generally pay for the rehearsal dinner and maybe the flowers?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Anxiouspeanut: I’ve also heard that they pay for the alcohol as well – I think what some traditions say is they pay for rehearsal dinner, alcohol and band but who knows. FI’s parents are paying for rehearsal and alcohol. My parents are paying for the band.

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Anxiouspeanut: Wait until she offers.  She doesn’t have to pay for anything – as adults getting married, responsibility should be on you for everything until money is otherwise offered.

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