(Closed) Parents paying for wedding and drama

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

1)  Congratulations!

2)  I know where you’re coming from.  My parents are paying for my entire wedding, but my mom has been office administrator for the church for over 11 years.  She’s trying to invite people from before our church split, people from the current church, including people I haven’t even met since I haven’t gone since I moved out of town.  I understand, but at the same time it’s like you invite one, you have to invite 100 more!  I finally just mentioned that it was more expensive the more people you have and try to compromise…I didn’t get much of one, but at least I tried 🙂

Good luck!

Post # 4
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Have you been honest with your parents in how you feel?  Said to them what you just wrote – that you consider your wedding the most important PRIVATE event in your life?  I would start there, but if your parents are insistent, with them paying, there isn’t much you can do.

If I were these people and didn’t know you, I would probably “catch on” that I was invited out of obligation and would probably not attend. 

Post # 5
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Usually I’m 100% on the brides side in situations like this…but your wedding isn’t exactly small and I can see where your parents are coming from in not wanting to offend anyone. Its easy to explain why someone wasn’t invited to a 50-100 person wedding but as the numbers climb it gets a little more difficult.

I honestly feel like most of those people will decline the invite if they don’t know you and aren’t that close to your parents. Maybe if you give your parents an exact amount as to what it will cost to add their list they will reconsider.

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