- 7 years ago
Hello everyone. You’ve got a groom here so be nice!
My fiance and I are getting married in the fall with an estimated cost of 25k for everything. We both have generous parents who offered to help us with the wedding expenses… But hers are being more generous by offering 10k while mine are offering 7k. Needless to say we are very fortunate!
The problem is the Fiance thinks this difference is really unfair, especially since my side accounts for sixty percent of the guests. It’s starting to cause fights as she tells me I’m not supporting her by pushing my family to contribute more. My feelings are that we are both adults and we make enough to pay for the thing ourselves, so any money we get should be accepted graciously, but it’s getting to the point where she’s talking about not inviting some of my guests due to the unfairness of it all. I’m hoping you can give some perspective here… Not sure how to proceed. I feel like this could quickly turn into a very bad start to her relationship with her future in laws, and while I agree that it would be more fair if both families contribute equally I just can’t turn this into a huge fight between us and my parents over money we don’t even need.