(Closed) Parents Paying

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Who is paying for your wedding?

    Brides Parents

    Grooms Parents

    Both sets of parents

    We're paying for our own

    All of the above


  • Post # 2
    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We paid for most of it ourselves. Got a little help from my parents, a lot of help from his. I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that we are in our 30s, live together, and have each lived on our own for the last 15+ years, but our parents wanted to help financially where they could so we could have the wedding we envisioned. Also, he is the only child so his parents were all about it. 

    Post # 3
    332 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    dublingirl:  Not sure about others but my father is paying.  I couldn’t afford the wedding I will be having and he has the money.  I am putting money towards it, but he is definitely paying the lion shares.  I have a really great relationship with my father.  It’s not really a cutural thing but he wants a really nice wedding for his family to attend as well.  However unlike other brides there really isn’t any strings attached to it minus inviting a few people I wouldn’t have normally.  Btw I’m from the states!

    Post # 4
    2895 posts
    Sugar bee

    We’re in Canada and are also paying for our own wedding.

    Post # 5
    3527 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

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    dublingirl:  We are in Toronto Canada.  And my mkm said she is contributing 1k towards my dress/veil/shoes… as he wedding gift and my dad said he’s giving us 2k towards the honeymoon. FIs parents havent said anything at all…. and we are paying for everything outselves pretty much. And that is why our budget is 10k.

    Post # 6
    5979 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Parents on both sides helped out. We didn’t ask they offered. The same is true for most of my circle of friends, both sets of parents helped pay.

    I woudn’t say it was a traditional or cultural thing. We didn’t split things up (like bar was his parents and flowers were mine), it was more of a gift that they likely would have given us even if we didn’t spend it on a wedding.

    Post # 7
    7225 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    US: Both sets of parents paid. It was their gift to us. We had a lovely wedding on a budget.

    Post # 8
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    We are paying for I would say 80-90% of it ourselves. Parents are helping with bits and pieces.

    Post # 9
    3383 posts
    Sugar bee

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    dublingirl:  My parents gave us $4K and are paying for half of our Rehearsal Dinner, his parents gave us $5K, and we are paying the rest ourselves. We are in the US.

    Post # 10
    1103 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would be surprised if this has anything to do with USA vs. Europe or anywhere else, I would assume this just has to do with how much money your family has and their value of money (not positive or negative). 

    None of our parents are wealthy, we are paying for 98% of the wedding, we’re from NYC. My dad paid for my dress ($800), and he offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. FI’s mom offered to pay for 9 of her friends to be invited, but I don’t really count that as going toward the wedding since they wouldn’t have been invited anyway. We’re having a long engagement to save up for our $50k budget. 

    Post # 11
    9437 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    My parents are very generously paying for our wedding. FI’s parents have made comments about paying for a few things but haven’t actually paid for anything yet. Any upgrades or anything outside of my parents budget that Fiance and I want we have paid for.

    Post # 12
    6354 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    My parents are paying. It’s something they’ve saved for since I was little (same with my brother) and what they’ve always wanted to do. I’m very budget conscious though so everything had stayed reasonable. They’re happy to do it. 

    Post # 13
    28 posts
    • Wedding: November 2016

    My Fiance and I are paying half, my parents are paying 2/3 of the remaining cost, and his parents are paying about 1/3.  Way more generous than we expected but we are thrilled!

    Post # 14
    2787 posts
    Sugar bee

    My fiance and I are paying for our wedding.

    My mother has offered to give us money but I refused it. For one, I just don’t feel comfortable with it because I just feel it’s something we should pay for in general and I doubt I would choose to pay for my children’s weddings if/when we have them. I have nothing against other families that do and I understand the feelings behind financially helping someone you love with that day. No right or wrong. However, for my situation, I just also can’t see accepting money from someone whom hasn’t honestly be completely genuine in support for my ceremony and my future inlaws. It’s their support and their kindness I would prefer.

    Post # 15
    2467 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

    My parents gave us $7k towards the wedding, as they had done for my sister and brother; DH’s parents wanted to contribute but had to wait until they’d sold a property which happened about six months aftper the wedding and they then gave us $5k which has all gone towards renovations on our house.  They also happily let us host our day after brunch at their place.  We paid for the rest of the wedding ourselves.

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