(Closed) Parents Paying

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Who is paying for your wedding?

    Brides Parents

    Grooms Parents

    Both sets of parents

    We're paying for our own

    All of the above


  • Post # 46
    1383 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    My parents paid for the hair/make-up and his parents bought his suit, helped us with the invites and then a few other small things. For the most part I’d say we paid 95% of everything ourselves and took us a little over a year and some seriously diligant saving in order to do so. My parents did give us a few hundred for the honeymoon as a gift which was really nice though 🙂

    Post # 47
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    My DH and I split the bill with my parents and grandmother. His parents didn’t contribute anything. Mine did because it was important to my mom/grandma since I’m an only child/grandchild. We were totally fine with a town hall wedding, but since my family wanted something more traditional, they helped with the bill.

    Post # 48
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    My mom is paying. If we were paying for our own wedding, it would be way smaller, so we’re super grateful. My mom is awesome and doesn’t throw her opinions at us, other than she wants us to have what we want, and she wanted to invite a few of her friends. FI’s dad is paying for our rehearsal dinner which I understand is also traditional.

    Post # 49
    839 posts
    Busy bee

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    dublingirl:  We got a fair bit of help from my parents (who had also helped my siblings with their weddings) and paid the rest ourselves. My Mother-In-Law offered to pay for certain things, but decided to give us a generous wedding gift instead.

    ETA: We were (and are) very grateful to our parents for their contributions, as they were offered lovingly and with strings or ulterior motives. Also, they weren’t put to any financial disadvantage, so we didn’t feel guilty accepting their kind generosity.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 10 months ago by Laululintu.
    Post # 50
    21 posts

    My mum seems to be in the idea that they are paying for the whole thing, I never knew that was tradition I always thought it was just the dress! I’m the youngest of 3 by 10 years though and anything they do for us they did for my siblings. I think they only put to my sisters wedding, but only because she got married in Cyprus and took the whole family over! My mum’s definetely glad I’m not getting married abroad! I think though that we will be paying for the photographer and our rings and such and parents possibly for the church and venue and food to split it a bit more. Fiance’s parents probably won’t put anything in as they don’t have the money to. Very greatful for it, but not choosing anything we wouldn’t chose if we weren’t paying for it ourselves

    Post # 51
    1939 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My parents paid for almost everything. I paid for roughly $1,000 worth of various items. My in laws paid for the rehersal dinner and they sent us on our honeymoon. We were very, very lucky and it was far more than I thought we would ever have when it comes to our wedding. 

    Post # 52
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Both sets of parents generously offered to contribute a substantial amount and in addition to that, my parents paid for my dress. We’re paying for the rest of the wedding ourselves. There have been no strings attached – no obligations, people we had to invite for our parents or anything like that. We definitely consider ourselves very lucky! 🙂

    Post # 53
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Mixed bag for us… his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, mine are paying for the “day of expenses” (venue, catering, flowers, music, photos).  FI and I are paying for everything else (invitations, honeymoon, accommodations for vendors, tips, transportation, dress, suits, etc).

    My parents really wanted to help pay, even though my Fiance and I could afford the wedding on our own.  I’m the last to get married, and they wanted to make sure things were ‘even’ between my brother and I.  At the same time, my Fiance is the first in his family to get married, and his parents really wanted to take on the rehearsal dinner.  Both sets of parents are pretty much giving us free reign, and have been really helpful.  


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