(Closed) Parents’ perspective on the guest list?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
10361 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hold your ground, and don’t feel any guilt! We had 67 guests (plus us) at our wedding, and it was the perfect amount! We got to actually talk to everyone, it was our very best friends and closest family, and it was amazing. Our venue (a spacious modern art museum) didn’t feel empty at all – it was really cool!

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are having the same issues with FI’s parents. His family is very well known around here and his parents seem to think we need to invite these people they’re super close to because these people “care” so much about Fiance.. I’ve NEVER even met these people and Fiance hasn’t seen them in a super long time.. but his dad said he’s paying for them, so they can come.. it’s annoying! But our guestlist is huge (222) so I guess a couple more people won’t matter..

Post # 6
159 posts
Blushing bee

Okay, I admit it – im the mom of the bride. IMO~


Your mom means no harm. If you are looking to fill up space, she has some friends who would love to come see a beautiful bride and handsome groom get married. But if there is no space, no big deal – she and her friends understand. Its kind of like if you find that you are short on guests, us moms can find you some  the same way we found guests to attend your birthday parties when you were a wee little one LOL  or when we would set up playdates so you would have friends – its kind of hard sometimes to stop being a mom when you daughter brides grow up and become strong women  – usually all we need is a “look” and we cut it out LOL

And as a mom, we understand and get it totally that the Bride and Groom want a personalized wedding – and thats great. We will make new friends at your wedding and have fun, because we love our daughter Brides so much! Unfortunately/fortunately for our generation, things were different…and it will be different when the next generation comes along – thats what life is about…


So, that being said ~


Even though we are paying 100% of our Daughter Brides wedding, we ARE not inviting close friends of ours, unless our bride and groom want them there. Its their wedding, not ours – when we had ours, it was a darn good one LOL However, when the grooms mom told me that their family (both his parents come from families of 8 and 10 respectively!) think of weddings as family reunions…


but we have handled it well and we still dont expect to invite our friends – otherwise the bride and groom couldnt invite theirs!!! Consider us generous, but im saving my true colors MOB greediness for if and when the grandbabies show up some day LOL

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