(Closed) Parents see invitation before they’re handed out?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4566 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hmmm… that’s a hard one. I’ll be showing them to my mom throughout the whole design process cause I trust her judgement more than my own!

Post # 4
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I showed my parents and my Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law before I got them printed. My brother, however, just got married this pas July and didn’t show my parents. I wish he had, because there was a mistake that would’ve been easily caught if he had showed them first…

Post # 5
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I showed mine to my mom, mostly because I was soo excited I couldn’t keep them from her!  I think it’s whatever you guys want!

Post # 6
1119 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We made ours ourselves and sent them out before anyone other than my younger brother (living with us at the time) saw them. I don’t think it’s a biggie to send them out without your parents seeing them – is it possible for you to hand deliver theirs?

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we showed ours to our parents because we made them and we wanted lots of people to make sure they were right. i think it depends how involved your parents are and want to be in your planning process for if you’re going to show them before other people.

Post # 8
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think it could go either way… we didn’t show our parents ahead of time, but only because they both live out of state. My mom was there when we picked the stuff out though (we used an invitation DIY kit) so she knew what they would would like.

Post # 9
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would certainly at least run the wording by them first, even if you want the design to be a surprise… parents often seem to have *strong* opinions about invitation wording, and you definitely don’t want to find out too late that someone’s feelings are hurt!

Post # 11
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Fi and I are paying for the wedding, but we both wanted to honor our parents by putting their names on the invite (we knew they’d love that, too).

So, we are going with the format:  Jane Doe, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Doe, etc…  I know that’s not your question, but it might be an option for you!

Also – I don’t think you need to show your parents before it goes out to the printer – but, it might be nice to show them before anyone else’s is mailed.  

Post # 12
2680 posts
Sugar bee

We showed both our parents to get their opinion and to make sure we had every set of eyes possible looking for any mistakes (since our invitation lady was a nightmare to deal with and had terrible spelling and grammer!)  Its a nice idea to keep it a surprise but if you want to run the wording by them first thats also thoughtful.

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