Parents separated recently… Impact on wedding

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Im sorry i cant provide any advice but im sure if you just talk to them seperatly and express how you both want them there for your special day they will understand and not cause any more drama. 

all the best 

Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Don’t think I can offer much advice, but I’m in a very similar situation. My brothers have actually refused to come to my wedding because they’re so committed to never speaking to my mother. 

I’m trying to minimise the impact of other people’s drama on my life. Practically, this means we invited some of my parent’s friends to our otherwise family only wedding, to provide some buffering. Certain family members are also going to be on high alert and I trust them to intervene if things start to go south. I think for bigger events it’s probably easier to keep people apart but we have less than 40 guests. 

I hope your family can act like adults and get along for the event! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Sorry to hear about your troubles Bee. My parents are divorced as well, unfrotuantely not recently so I am not sure how much help my advice will be.

I definietly agree with the other posters. Talk to both your mom and dad in a practical manner. They should be able to put aside their feelings and difficulties for your wedding. I’m sure they both love you very much.

I also have a similar situation with my mama driving me a little bonkers. Try to be straight forward with her. If she can’t behave, she isn’t going to be as involved. She has to be able to play nice. It’s one thing if she wants to seperate from your dad, it’s another to bring her relationship and issues into your wedding and wedding planning. Set boundries. If she starts bring it up, don’t engage with her. Keep repeating the same thing over and over and be firm. I have found in my planning so far, that is the best method to getting what you want and avoiding issues.

Good luck Bee! I’m here to chat if you need mroe advice or just someone to vent too!

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