Post # 1
I’m having a terrible time trying to figure out the wording to use for the engagement announcement and the invitations.
My parents have been divorced for 17 years, but my mother has kept her married name.
My FI’s father passed away four years ago, and his mother remarried and I THINK hyphenates her old married name with her new one.
So… how should that look in the newspaper and on the invitations.
My mother and grandmother are paying for most of our wedding; his parents have only offered a small amount. For the invites, I’d like to get around that whole "Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so request" part because that wouldn’t make sense, based on the tradition of who pays.
Tell me if I’m right. This is what I came up with for the newspaper announcement:
Jane Smith of Weirtonia and John Smith of East Nowhere announce the engagement of their daughter Lola Ann Smith to Bob Bo Doe Jr., son and stepson of Carol Doe-Nut and Will Nut and the late Bob Doe Sr.
For the invites, I was thinking:
The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of
Miss Lola Ann Smith
Mr. Bob Bo Doe Jr.
Saturday, the 16th day of May, two thousand nine
at Shmoe’s Country Club
Weirtonia, New Haven
Am I way off here? Thanks!
Post # 3
All of that sounds perfect and lovely to me. I would definitely check with your future mother-in-law to make sure she hyphenates.
Another option on the invitation is, "Together with their families, Lola Ann Smith and Bob Bo Doe Jr. request the pleasure of your company…." if you want to give your families a written nod.
Post # 4
I am no etiquette guru, by any means. But here are my thoughts, however, I probably won’t cover everything because I just don’t know! For the announcement, I don’t think I’d put anything about step-son. My stepfather is very adamant about calling me his daughter, and I have my invitations as Mr. Dad (stepmother passed) and Mr. and Mrs. Mom (mom and stepdad) request… of their daughter. See how they are about it, I remember when I was little, I would sign cards "Love, your step-sister/half-sister" and my siblings got upset about it. And I realized we’re full brothers and sisters, and daughters and sons!
Now with the invites, I don’t think you’re supposed to have your names as Miss and Mr. We have just our full names written out. And were you planning on including your parents’ names on the invites or not? You could do a "together with their families" kind of thing. I would also ask your fiance about his mom’s last name (hyphen or not) to be sure!! Wow, and I thought my family was confusing!! Here’s an invitation wording wizard on the Knot to help with some of the other wording, and maybe you can pick bits and pieces from some different ones. http://www.theknot.com/keywords/sc_152_527.shtml. Good luck!