Post # 1
Our nephew is being baptised 6 weeks after our baby is due. Without breaks to feed baby etc it’s about a 4.5hour car journey away. We would be able to stay in a nice room at their house (husband’s brother’s home), however it will be a very full house with 8 adults (in laws) and 5 other (noisy) children staying too. (and 4 dogs including our two!). It isn’t a huge house, but, as I said, we would get the nice spare room. All my husband’s family are wonderful and I love them very much. We could stay as short or as long as we wanted.
My question for parents is, would this have been something you could have coped with with a small baby? My concerns are it will be hectic with all the people around, breastfeeding might not be established properly, sleep for all of us might be terrible etc. My husband will go even if I can’t, but I’d like to go if it won’t be a nightmare. I’ll obviously decide once baby has arrived, but was wondering what my chances of feeling up to it are!
Post # 3
@Hemnes: I’m not a mom yet, but keep in mind that hour baby may be late, and as a result your baby may not even be six weeks. Or, baby could come early. You never know. I think I would probably wait and see how you feel.
Post # 4
@Hemnes: Babies are super portable and as long as you set a good foundation the baby is likely not to be bothered by noise etc, by this i mean dont tiptoe around the baby once its hear, keep your place noisy with the radio/tv/washer/dryer anything with noise. They will learn to sleep through it that way i have been there with my son. the only red flag is that 4.5 hours with no chance for a break … what if theres an accident somewhere and it turns into 6 hours or more, that long without a break is not good for baby, they shouldnt be in car seats that long and he/she will need feeding, i would schedule a break around 2 hours in and have a backup plan ‘just in case’. Other than that i dont see any reason why you shouldnt go, like you said you will be staying somewhere comfy with no obligation to stay too long if you dont want to and you will be around family not strangers. Unless you have a c-section birthi would go, if you have a section you might be too uncomfortable in the car.
Post # 5
I haven’t had my baby yet but we are considering a 3 hour trip to the family vacation timeshare about 5 weeks in and all my mommy friends have said to do it. Granted decide at the time but That they would do it. You might consider getting a hotel if you can afford it jist because tha. Sounds insane but if you’re comfy with all the people then whatever as long as you have a private room.
Post # 6
I have an 8 week old. I think it’s possible, but I wouldn’t want to do that.
Post # 7
@bouncybee: I’m more worried about the noise stopping me rest than the baby, I got limited sleep over Christmas with the adults staying up drinking and children waking early!! We would definitely be able to stop as often as we wanted at services on the motorway. Thanks for your reply, fingers crossed!
Post # 8
@Hemnes: By 6 weeks I was seriously down with cabin fever. I’d have gone anywhere! Breastfeeding should be established by then, but even if it’s not you should be able to be alone in the bedroom while you’re there to get away from all the commotion. I would highly suggest feeding the baby immediately before you leave (hopefully he’ll sleep the entire ride).
Post # 9
Totally doable. Depending on how they travel, try to coordinate leaving with them having been awake for an hour or so so that they will sleep for the first bit. Stop for an hour to feed, change, have a break from the car etc and they may sleep again when you get back in. However, if baby is late, or if you have had to have a C-section then recovery time for that is at least six weeks and sitting in a car that long can be very uncomfortable. I would play it by ear but it’s perfectly doable 🙂
Post # 10
We took a three hour car trip when our daughter was 12 weeks. It took us five hours to get there. It sucked so bad and I dreaded driving back home. It was difficult being out of our element and not having all the things we were used to at home. Traveling got a lot easier when she was about six months. Now that she’s 2, I never hesitate to travel.
Post # 11
It really depends on your baby, how you’re recovering from the delivery and how breastfeeding is going.
with my son, at 6 weeks I was still an exhausted mess and breastfeeding was difficult. We barely slept at night and he was also a poor napper, so he cried a lot if he wasn’t being held. I would not have done the trip.
With my daughter, I was on my feet and ready to do stuff within 3 weeks. I would have gone on the trip without worrying at all.
however, if I decided to travel, I for sure would have stayed in a hotel and not in a house full of other people especially if baby wakes up through the night and could wake up everyone else!
Oh, and plan a lot more time for the drive.
Post # 12
We had a lot of breastfeeding and sleeping issues. I would not personally have been able to do it with my son. However, I think it’s so dependent on your baby. Some babies would have no issues doing that. Can you wait and see how you and baby are doing?
Post # 13
You can totally do it and it will be good for you all including baby. The more experiences they are exposed to, the better imo.
We traveled to the in laws when Dirty Delete was about that age and it was fine. It was actually much easier than it is now at 13 months since she slept most of the time. Just schedule 2 or 3 breaks and take your time. Their home is also very busy and noisy (eespecially compared with our quiet house) and baby was fine. At that age they sleep through everything. We also had our dog in the car too and although a bit crowded, we we’re all cozy and safe.
Good luck & have fun….show that baby off!
Post # 14
My SIL attended her family reunion with a 7 week old! She said it wasn’t bad!
Post # 15
@Hemnes: I’d do it but with a full house I’d most likely opt to get a hotel room so we can have our own space for quiet, rest & sleep…but then there’s the dogs to consider…can they stay home with a sitter?
Post # 16
By 6 weeks, I felt really confident to get out and go places! We started taking her on longer car trips (3.5 hours) when she was 2 weeks, and we went on a very long trip with lots of driving when she was 8 weeks old (8 days, 3 cities, different hotel rooms/relatives houses). As long as you give yourself lots of time (our 3.5 hour trips took more like 6 hours with stops to feed) you should be just fine!