(Closed) Parents want us to get master's degree first before marriage

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@FutureMrs_KRC:  honestly, I would tell them to mind their own business. It is NOONE else’s business when you choose to get married, (except perhaps if they were financially supporting you etc.) you have both got careers and degrees. I’m sorry, I just don’t get it why they think it’s their business?!

Post # 4
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322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Emmzy:  +1.  If you’re in your mid20s, you’re ADULTS.  Do what you want.

Post # 5
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7271 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FutureMrs_KRC:  Does an MD in nursing mean a big pay hike? Or what happens when you get it? The reason I ask is my dad kept pushing me to get an MD in my field and I finally was able to show him that financially it didn’t even make sense. The pay increase was so little that by the time I paid for school and waited two more years to start a job I would have already gotten pay raises to match what you get paid with an MD. Also, MDs in my field tend to lead to research which I don’t want to do. Anways, I’m just curious why they’re pushing so hard for it. Like you said you both have good jobs. I think they are being a little ridiculous and you guys should get married! I don’t see why it makes a difference whether you’re married or not when you go back to school!

Post # 6
Hostess
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Luckily it’s not their call. Do whatever works for you guys. You’re going to deal with so many obnoxious opinions for the rest of your marriage, now is the time to draw boundaries. 

Congratulations!

Post # 7
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1054 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@FutureMrs_KRC:  I’m going to have to agree with everyone that’s already replied. It’s your decision, not theirs. Have they stated why they want you to get your masters first? 

Post # 8
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2497 posts
Buzzing bee

@FutureMrs_KRC:  I don’t know of anyone with a master’s in nursing. It sounds like they just want you guys to wait on marriage.

Post # 9
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2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Honestly, unless they are going to pay for that program, I would politely tell them that you two are both adults & more than capable of making decisions for yourselves :]

Post # 10
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9181 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

This is weird. You are fully grownups – your parents need to relax and quit trying to control your lives! Especially if they’re not paying for your wedding, they really have no say. 

My Fiance is a nurse and wants to get his nurse practicioner PhD. We certainly don’t feel the need to wait until after that to get married though. I got my master’s before getting engaged, but that’s only cause we were in noooo rush to get engaged/married.

Post # 11
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1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@stephanie091512:  +1

if they are not financially contributing (to either your living expenses, wedding or masters program) then they have no say

Post # 14
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1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree that it’s better to be in your job for awhile before getting your master’s. I know several nurses who were sure what area they wanted to work in, then hated it. They actually ended up working in floors that were very different from where they started.

If your parents are not paying for it, then they really have no say. You’re in your mid-20s, it’s your life. You know what’s best for you!

 

Post # 15
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see why you can’t go to school while married and get your masters, especially if you are not sure of the particular field in which to get it. Also I think  many masters programs are more useful when you have a bit of experience in your field. Is there any impact on your financial aid to being married?

Post # 16
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3465 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

most masters degrees for nursing want you to have a few years experience before applying so you should just do what YOU want to do and wait until you’re sure about what area of nursing you want to be in. Maybe try to have a heart to heart with your family about why you want to wait, plus you are both adults! You can make your own decisions and they’ll just have to accept it!

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