(Closed) Parents: What should a couple discuss before TTC?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

There was a great thread on this a few days ago actually!

A few quick things that come to mind are parenting styles, religion (if you’re going to bring your kids up in a religion), schools (private or public), if you’re going to be a Stay-At-Home Mom or go back to work, childcare, circumcision if you have a boy, what you’ll do if you can’t conceive naturally…I’ll try to think of more!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We have discussed IN DEPTH budget and where money will go, parenting styles, how we will share duties, things about when the kids get older (rules for teenagers and such), etc.  In fact, I can’t think of a thing we haven’t discussed when it comes to kids, so I am interested to see what others post.  I’m sure we have missed a lot along the way!  I know our ideas could change with time and experience, but it is important for us to see beyond the baby as it grows and the situations that will arise.  We are going to TTC in May through the summer.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re having these conversations now too. What we’ve discussed so far is parenting styles (we tend to agree – score!), where we will live and for how long (although this can’t be controlled sometimes) and what we’ll do when it comes to childcare and schooling.

Another thing I’m going to bring up soon is genetic testing. I don’t think men know a lot about this in general so I’m going to make sure my Darling Husband knows what the baby will be tested for adn what we’ll do if the tests come out bad.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

How much time/what are the expectations of grandparents. This is tearing apart our marriage right now and I wish we had discussed it before our little guy came. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@DVsMom:  Do you mean how much time with the grandparents?  Like sharing time?

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

#1 the Financial talk, figure out how youre gonna support eachother when you can no longer work, are you gonan be a stay at home mom? will you take Maternity leave?

While your still working now, I would open a Savings account for the baby, so that when you take that time off, youre not depending on that one pay check from your husband, you can somehow contribute with what you have saved.

 

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Wow that happy list is so good! I’m crazy broody right now and that is such a constructive list… Not just for discussions as a couple but also see consider your personal reasons for wanting children. Now if only getting my husband to think about these things was as easy!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We talked about money, schooling, getting a new car, possibly moving to a bigger house, church, eating together at the table, family activites, my job/becoming a Stay-At-Home Mom, possibly having a child with a disability, values, discipline, how children develop, vacations as a family/couple, life insurance

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