- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
So, something really interesting happens when you plan a wedding. You suddenly become very acutely aware of your parents finances, and how they’ve choses to handle their money.
I always knew my parents were spenders. They just haven’t ever saved much. That was their prerogative, and I’m in no way saying that I fault them- it’s their choice.
However, it did cause me to have to pay for a lot of my college education in loans, and because they aren’t able to contribute to the wedding, I’m paying for the bulk of my wedding myself (with FI’s help, of course).
Fi’s family, in contrast, is quite different. They spend money, yes, but they are more inclined to save, and they did a great job of planning ahead to help provide Fiance with help starting his life as an adult.
This included help with college, as well as help with the wedding.
And then there are things we didn’t even know about- like savings that have now reached a good amount of money that we never even knew existed, and that we could either use for the wedding, or to put towards a house, or whatever.
I’m not saying that I wish my parents had done the same- it would have been nice, but I also value the lessons I’ve learned by being on my own.
At the same time, though, it has really made me think about how I want to raise my own children, and how much support I want to try to provide for them.
Has anybody else had revelations like this during wedding planning?