(Closed) parents with children and workplace

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 1
Member
6 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hi

I just wanted to get some opinions about some workplace issues.

My partner and I are just newly married, no kids, and no intention to have kids for a number of years yet.

We both have issues in our workplaces where other people we work with always demand xmas, easter, new years off because they want to spend time with their families and children.

Even time we put in for leave, we are both guilted into doing on call or working because we dont have kids.

I feel that we should be able to say no, that we want to spend time with our family – which is just us two at this stage and should not have to feel guilty and be guilted into working because “our family” doesnt include children.

We have both worked the last 3 xmas, easters and new years and this year we thought we would both put in for leave for xmas, I put my leave in for xmas at the start of the year, and finally have some time off, however my partner put in for leave also at the start of the year and is now being made to do on call because the person who was meant to do it wants to take their kids to the fireworks on new years.

I dont feel that we should be guilted into doing holidays just because “our family” only includes us two, we should be allowed to have time off on holidays to spend with our family also.

Just want to hear what people’s thoughts are ?

Kate

 

Post # 3
Member
2333 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I agree. We currently work for ourselves so we don’t have this issue, but we’ve both been in that position in the past. I don’t know what you can do about it, maybe it depends on where you work. It doesn’t seem fair that they would make him work, especially if he put in his request early/before the other person. Sorry I don’t have any advice, just wanted to share my thoughts on how unfair that is. 🙁

Post # 4
Member
2613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@beadyscientist:  Say no and don’t feel guilty about it – why should you? A pernson’s responsibility to their job doesn’t decrease or increase based on their reproductive status. If you both have worked previous holidays at your jobs, it’s your turn to takr time off. Take it to HR if you have too. 

So what if a co-worker wants to take her kids somewhere? It’s her turn to work. 

Post # 5
Member
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

UGH that just sucks, I’m all for people spending holidays with their kids because it sucks if they can’t be there but that in no way means they should get special treatment.  If its that important to them then they should have turned in their requests at the begining of the year like you did.  I would say no if I were you, you put in to get off before them so you should get the time off.  Just say you made plans so he can’t be on call, end of story.

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