Post # 1
Just out of curiosity, are classes a requirement for moms ( and dads) to be?
An office debate has ensued this morning between my co-workers over this issue. I have 2 parents -to-be that I work with, and they are both paying $200 for an intro class that is required by their doctor. Some parents have said that it is a waste of money and you don’t need hospital and room tours , or even to be shown how to handle a baby because they show you all that once you deliver. It has caused some ruffled feathers in the office between the “take a class” and “save your money/don’t take the class” camp.
Thoughts? Did your doctor require this? Was it worth it?
Post # 3
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Post # 5
Never heard of “required” class. We didn’t take any classes, it wasn’t required. But I wanted to. My Darling Husband on the other hand did not. I told him either we take a class on child birth or he gets to read this book that SIL had from her Doula that is very graphic. He chose the book but little boy was born early so he only got to read the 1st chapter.
Post # 6
@Mrs_Amanda: Paying someone $200 for a class in having a baby. Hell, most times, the class needs to come in picking a mate – not what happens AFTER the baby is already here.
ETA: My mother would die laughing if I told her I was going to pay someone to take a class
Post # 7
I’ve never heard of such a class being required but personally, I would totally take that class and have actually been looking into something similar in my area. I’ve never changed a diaper in my life and it would be great to get a little bit of practice in. I’d rather not be overwhelmed with all of this new information after delivering as it’s an incredibly crazy, stressful, and emotional time and I don’t think I’d be able to remember everything!
Post # 8
Darling Husband and I took a total of 7 classes. They were all FREE through the hospital. I’m not sure I’d be keen on paying $200 for one tho…
We got a lot out of the classes. It’s important to hear a lot of this stuff more than once. The info ranged from breast feeding, managing pets, managing post partum depression, handling baby, car seat, infant/child CPR, etc.
There is no way all of that is going to get covered in the short stay at your hospital. I am glad I feel prepared to handle a choking baby.
Post # 9
I just checked the local hospital website and they offered some free and some paid classes. We are not expecting or TTC yet. This is the first I have heard of required classes, though.
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m trying to find some free classes or maybe I’ll just choose two (I think they’re $60 each). I really want all of the info, but paying a million dollars (well, about that 🙂 for a bunch of classes isn’t appealing. I was also a nanny, so I’m not foreign to diapers, feeding, clothing, etc… and my husband cared for his younges brother as a baby, but that was a while ago now.
We just want to be as prepared as possible.
And nothing is required by my doctor. She just gave us a huge pile of papers when we heard the heartbeat that included stuff about classes.
Post # 11
@DJones69: Wow, and here I thought you were going to say that them discussing and arguing about this, in the office of all places, was the ridiculous part. But nope, you jumped right in with the judgemental people in her office. Why should you care or think it’s ridiculous that people want to do whatever they can to be as prepared as possible and put their mind at ease a bit? What could it possibly hurt?
Post # 12
@Mrs_Amanda: I’m already very comfortable with babies and I know what to do, as much as anyone can. No one is perfect, and nothing will ever be exactly as you planned no matter how many classes you take. For me, I would not waste my time or money in baby classes. If my doctor tried to *force* me, I would find a new doctor.
Post # 13
@Wonderstruck: Everyone in the world is judgmental. You make judgments, I make judgments… the people she asked/told in the office made judgments. Stop making the word judgment an ugly word. If you don’t want people’s opinions, keep it to yourself. The minute you tell someone you’re going to pay someone $200 to do something people have done for free for all of eternity, you are asking someone (like me) to tell you…
Because that’s what I see it as being. Ridiculous. You said it yourself. If you have that big of a problem/question they’ll address it in the hospital when you are there WITH YOUR BABY. What is this class going to teach you? They aren’t going to teach you how to change a baby boy without him peeing in your face because a doll isn’t going to pee when you take its diaper off. It’s not going to teach you how to soothe your crying baby because well, every baby is different and what’s going to work for your baby, you’re going to have to figure out when you find out what kind of temperment they have. It’s not gonna tell you how to change a baby who wiggles all the time… because dolls don’t wiggle.
You want to take a class that’ll be worth something? One hour in an infant CPR class. Everything else? Useless
And this is coming from a mother of an 18 year old. I didn’t take a class
Post # 14
I’d switch OB’s over trying to force me into a mandatory BS class on things they cover at birth.
I’d never been around babies in my life and didn’t take a class. However, I did do the CPR/safety classes not long after the birth of my first.
Post # 15
While classes are not required by our doctor, Darling Husband and I decided they would be beneficial to us as first time parents with little to no prior experience with newborns. We paid $125 for a package of classes that included an 8-hour childbirth education class, and 2-hour classes on parenting, child safety and breastfeeding. We found them incredibly helpful and informative – well worth what we paid.
Post # 16
@DJones69: Most, if not all, of those classes do cover infant CPR, as well as labor and delivery (which obviously people got through labor before those classes existed,but if it helps the mom-to-be feel more prepared that’s fine, it’s her choice.) And I do think it’s a bit weird for the people in her office to be telling others how much the class you’re taking about labor and caring for your infant costs, but I think it’s way more weird to get so worked up about how someone else spends their money. Yeah, every baby is a bit different and parents figure out what works for them and their child as they go along. But there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be as prepared for parenthood as humanely possible – besides, it’s not the hospital’s job to teach that stuff after the baby is born, and I doubt they’d have time to teach that much anyways when unless there are medical issues you’re going to be out of there after one night.
ETA: And I wasn’t going to bother getting into this, but I do think judgement is a bad thing when a person has not asked for your opinion. Yes, this post was asking – but there were about a million nicer ways you could have worded yours, especially since we’re talking about something parents try to do as a positive thing for their children. Yeah, sometimes I do judge other parents and gossip and do other things that aren’t necessarily great – I’m human, I’m not perfect. But lately I keep seeing people around the bee saying crap like, “Oh everyone judges, everyone gossips, it’s normal” when it’s pointed out to them that they’re concerned about something that’s really not any of their business and no one asked them about. I see being judgy and gossipy as a flaw that most of us do have but we need to be mindful of, not as something to be proud of as you seem to be. But that’s a whole other issue.