Post # 1
Hi Bees, i have a bit of an etiquette dilema on my hands. Long story short, my fiance wasn’t raised by either of his parents, he was raised by his grandparents. While he has a relationship with his mother and father (they are divorced) now it’s not really a parent figure relationship. It’s more of a friendship. He sees his mother once a week and his dad lives in another state. He talks to his dad maybe once every other month. We are paying for half out wedding and my parents are paying the other half. His parents are not contributing a penny. We’ll be lucky if his dad even comes. We plan on giving my parents a gift for helping us through life and with the wedding. He already calls my parents mom and dad and they consider him a son so giving them a gift wasn’t a problem. Do we also get a gift for his mom and dad?? Like thanks for giving birth to him so that i could marry him? I personally want to give his grandmother and grandfather a gift for raising such an amazing man but i dont want to offend his parents since they are the reason he’s here. Do we just do gifts for my parents? What would you do?
Post # 2
If you are presenting gifts at the rehearsal dinner, I suggest you present a gift to both his parents and grandparents. The gifts need not be the same, nor do they need to be similar to the gift you give your parents.
You could give his parents a card promising a pic from the wedding and perhaps a mini album to the grandparents.
Post # 3
I would give gifts to whomever I felt moved to give gifts to. Given your situation, that would probably be my parents and his grandparents. With that in mind, I would present them privately, not at the rehearsal dinner or anywhere else where people (those receiving gifts, or those who think they should be) might feel bad or embarassed by it.
Post # 4
thanks for the help ladies. We’ve decided that we will do a gift for my parents in private, and at the rehearsal dinner we will present his parents and grandparents and my parents each with a card with some heartfelt words. We’ve also decided that since our photographer is giving us 2 parent albums, my parents will get one and his grandparents will get the other. Not only do they deserve it but they’ll appreciate it more. His parents will each get a photo of us but the album will be going to his grandparents. His parents won’t be aware of that fact so there will be no hurt feelings. Thanks again for the insite!!