(Closed) Parents/InLaws ordering Wedding pics?! This proves my MIL hates me!

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you might be overreacting. Of course your ILs want photos that mostly include their family, who wouldn’t? a lot of people see weddings as a good way to get family portraits since it can be tough to get everyone together otherwise.

Our parents didn’t order photos, but we designed an album for each set of parents. His parents’ album had mostly their family photos and closeups of him and mine had my family and bridal portraits. 

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My wedding hasn’t happened yet. But I may be reading your tally wrong, but it seems like you’re in almost all the photos.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your history may be clouding your feelings on this. I think most parents order more pics that show their side of the family. If you didn’t want family pics,( meaning her family) you wouldn’t have family pics taken at the wedding.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you’re looking too far into this, to be completely honest.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Agree with the other members. My mom will do the exact same thing with triple the pictures, and she most definately doesn’t dislike Fiance.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My family isn’t going to buy a lot of photos of my FI’s side of the family. It sounds like you’re in a fair amount of the photos they ordered and who knows they may be planning on making copies on the individual pics that aren’t from the photographer’s site.

I can understand the hurt but they did make an effort to include your daughter, albeit the picture is small. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it right now. You don’t know what they’re doing with the pictures.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Unfortunately I think this is pretty normal. People are always most likely to order pictures of themselves first. And she did at least order some pics of just you and Darling Husband, so I wouldn’t be too upset about it.

If it makes you feel any better, I discovered that my IL’s decorated their homes in pictures of DH’s niece from our wedding (their only granddaughter) instead of focusing on ordering and framing wedding photos of Darling Husband and I, the bride and groom. Every photo they have displayed is either just of the niece or at least has her in it if it includes Darling Husband and I. It hurts a little because I feel like we aren’t important enough to them until we have kids, but I just brush it off. Oh now that I”m remembering, they actually gave us a hard time for ordering mainly pictures of the two of us for our own personal wedding album. To me that was so ridiculous I actually laughed.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree, I think given your history with them, you’re looking too far into it.  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, I agree with the others – I don’t see anything weird/wrong with the shots she choose or number of pics ordered…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We gave wedding pictures as Christmas presents, so we had framed pics of Darling Husband, his family, and myself. After a disasterous bonding experience a year later, she removed them from the living room while I was in the room. I laughed inside when she did this. What I’m trying to say is that I understand where you’re coming from. You can send her pics of the two of you or one with you, your child, and your Darling Husband. You can control the narrative. My parents didn’t order pictures. We gave them framed ones as well. They reside on a bookcase with wedding and family pics from my brother’s family.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry I have to agree with PP…..if she HATED you she wouldn’t have gotten ANY with you.

My mom has totally used weddings as an excuse to get family pictures…as PP said, when else do you get the whole family together AND dressed nicely?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

Op- I usually agree with you on most things 🙂 But I think you might be overreacting a bit.. i think it might be natural for a family to me more interested in their side of things.. (i.e. their son or daughter)… But I don’t like that she doesn’t have any pics with your little girl in it. 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with PPs, this is not something I would of ever noticed or actually went through and tallied – and even now that you have it really doesn’t seem to prove anything. Of course most of the pictures have your Darling Husband in them, it’s her sons’ wedding so yes, it seems like she’d pick many photos that featured him. And what’s wrong with her 8 x 10 not having your daughter in it? She wasn’t the one getting married, it was a photo of the bride and groom on their wedding day.

And you are definitely in more than seven, your count is way off.

I’ll assume your in-laws have doen things in the past that make you think your Mother-In-Law doesn’t like you, but honestly you’re reading into this way too much when it comes ot the pics, seems like you’re looking for a reason to be upset with her. Analyzing photos and searching for a reason to be upset with her is not going to improve the relationship.

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