Post # 1
I feel silly even writing this because I’m admitting what a TOOL I spent two years of my life with. What an idiot I was in my early twenties!! 🙁
Back in 2004, I was dating a real d-bag loser. There, I said it. One of the many d-bag things he did was get not one but TWO DUI’s that he kept secret from me. After the second one, when his car broke down he abandoned it in a parking lot one day and never got a new one. Eventually, I found out about all of this – yet this was AFTER I felt sorry for him and loaned him my car numerous times. During the course of him borrowing my car (with a suspended license, natch) he began racking up parking tickets. When I found out about them, I ‘made’ him pay them – and assumed that when he said he did, he was being truthful. I never heard another word about them, and when I sold that car years ago had no issues transferring the title, etc.
This morning, I went to buy tabs for my car and found out that I have $561 worth of tickets attached to my social security numberr. Two are valid and attached to my new car (I got them and was prepared to make the payment to get my tabs) but the most of that money is due to these tickets my ex got and never paid for from my old one.
Bottom line is my tabs expire tomorrow. In order for my Darling Husband to drive our car I need tabs.
My legal question is this – if I were to take my ex to small claims court, would I have any recourse whatsoever? I can’t obviously PROVE that he drove the car or anything else. It’s my word against his. The only thing I am fairly certain of is that it’s highly likely he has a bench warrant for his arrest relating to the second DUI (he’s kind of like Lindsay Lohan – keeps getting in trouble and either dodging the sentence or talking his way into something lesser).
The logical side of me says I should pay this, suck it up and move on. The petty side of me really wants to see this guy get called out publicly and possibly thrown in jail for all the crap he put me through and did to me (cheating, lying, stealing credit cards, taking money out of my purse, etc.)
If I file in small claims, do I have ANY shot at winning?
Post # 3
@christalynn11: I’m not a lawyer, but I would talk to a lawyer about taking him to small claims court if I were you. I have a friend (a bridesmaid) who is dealing with her ex husband in small claims court, though the amount he owes her is like $5,000.
I’d at least call a lawyer and explain your situation, and try to get some advice about it. Just remember that things like “he’s an idiot who gets DUI’s all the time” and “he also used to steal money from my purse” are not relevant to your claim regarding the tickets and you probably won’t get back that money. Sorry your ex is such a jerk and good luck!
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
It really depends. It pretty much comes down to your word versus his. It will cost you some money to file a claim, but not very much. Maybe $100, $200, depending on where you live. You really don’t need a lawyer for small claims court and it would probably be a waste of money to hire one.
I think the more important question isn’t whether you could win a claim against him (maybe, maybe not), but whether it’s really worth it emotionally to have to deal with something like this. Going through the process of filing the claim and then possibly having a hearing could be very stressful and bring up a lot of old emotions. If it were me, I’d want to think about that before filing a claim. Then again, it could feel pretty good to stick it to him.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 5
@christalynn11: Yeah I had that happen once. Ex borrowed car, got a ticket for parking in the street when it had snowed. It was like a $5 or $10 ticket. He said he’d pay for it and I believed him.
Fast forward 5 years later and I get a letter in the mail stating I have a warrant out for my arrest because of an unpaid ticket. By this time I was back at my parents house 3 hours away from where I was living during college.
I paid it, was pretty mad but my ex and I are friends again now and I told him about it. He apologized and we laugh about it. Fortunately he wasn’t as big of a d-bag as your ex seems to be. I mean one ticket to accidently forget about (we broke up like 2 weeks after he got the ticket) is one thing but racking up tickets is another. Sorry about your luck. Hope you get things sorted out. Unfortunately its on your record though and you can’t do anything about it other than pay.