(Closed) PART 2: Welp, my FMIL bought her dress for the wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Don’t return it.  Have your Fiance give it back to him and tell him that it’s out of the return time limit.  Your Fiance should also explain to him the point of the tie and how it does coordinate since the two colors are your wedding colors.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I always match FI’s tie to my dress for events. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sorry, that sucks.  They definitely are acting weird and inconsiderate.  Esp. Future Mother-In-Law.

 

I know it’s easier said than done, but this is one of those battles you just have to let go.  It’s not worth giving them any attention.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Kant:  Does Fiance like the tie?  If so, just keep it for him.  If he doesn’t want to address this issue with his parents, then just let it lie.  It’s not worth it for you to stress out over it.  The more you let them get you mad, the more they have control over you.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m really sorry that you’re going through all of this **HUGS**

I would just let your FIL’s know that you found the receipt, and the tie is outside of the return policy. Maybe offer to switch it with a different color, but that you’d really love for  him to wear the original one you got for him, as a gift

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would just try to step back for a minute. People are going to be paying attention to you and your groom, not your parents. If his parents are going to be difficult, I would just let them dress themselves like adults and try not to get stressed over it. 

I don’t think you should have to return the tie but then I think that since you know he’s not going to wear it, that is a waste of money. If I were in your position, I would let them pick out their own outfits and not even deal with it. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Kant:  Haha, I have a feeling I’m a bit more ocd than most about it.  Coordinating is not the same as matching in my book.  If I wear a purple dress, Fiance wears a purple tie.  Blue dress, blue tie.  Black dress, gray tie.  Etc. 

Your Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law are being jerks, don’t get me wrong.  But I agree with your Fiance that the tie is not a battle worth fighting.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Fiance always tries to coordinate his outfit to go with mine….

In my opinion you are making way too much work for yourself. Give them back the tie with the receipt and let them return it (or try to). Or you can just return it and get a pink tie or something equally ridiculous. I personally would do the latter.

Future Mother-In-Law is going to look pretty stupid in a ivory dress, and thats on her. I would be beyond furious is I were you. I think they are trying to make things difficult on purpose. Don’t let them get to you.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think you should tell them that the tie was outside of the return period so you exchanged it and selected a tie which matches your wedding colors. Tell them how excited you are that their outfits are the wedding colors champagne and sage green. And then just give them the same tie.

If they don’t leave it alone at that point… good luck

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I guess I’m in the minority here, but I just don’t think this is something to get worked up about.  I believe the only outfits you are able to dictate are those of the wedding party, so whatever his parents or your parents want to wear shouldn’t really matter to you In My Humble Opinion.  On the day of your wedding no one will notice the color of the father-of-the-groom’s tie, and it’s also unlikely that anyone will mistake the mother-of-the-groom’s champagne dress for a wedding gown.  Let them wear what they want and concern yourself only with things that you can control.

FWIW, I bought my own mother jewelry that I thought would be perfect for her to wear at my wedding.  She later told me that she had purchased other jewelry that she wanted to wear, and it didn’t bother me in the least.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Kant:  your welcome, hope it helps!

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