- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Please see part 1 here http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/welp-my-fmil-bought-her-dress-for-the-wedding
Also, warning, I am frustrated beyond all belief right now so sorry if this is incoherent.
So it turns out that Fiance, in his infinite wisdom, took FFIL’s tie home with him for us to return, even though I said no to that. He confirms that FMIL’s dress is closer to a champagne color, which, whatever, that’s one of our wedding colors so I guess I can’t complain too much. However, they are insisting that FFIL’s tie which I GAVE HIM AS A GIFT doesn’t match her dress and that they’ll look stupid together if he wears it, and that we need to return it so Future Father-In-Law can wear his own tie.
1. That’s rude. This is a gift I gave you, and you’re forcing me to return it?
2. FMIL’s dress is champagne. The tie is sage green. OUR WEDDING COLORS ARE SAGE GREEN AND CHAMPAGNE. I didn’t even plan their clothes that way (I wanted the dads to have ties that coordinated with the wedding colors, but had no say in what FMIL/my grandma wore). They’re our freaking WEDDING COLORS, of course they go together! Is she going to complain about my table linens, invitations, etc. etc. too? Because they’re all sage and champagne.
3. Stop bitching about wanting to wear “your own clothes” — YOU ARE. The ONLY thing I’ve had any say in is FFIL’s tie. Future Mother-In-Law is wearing her own dress and shoes, Future Father-In-Law is wearing his own suit, shirt, shoes, etc. It’s not like I’m dressing you up in ugly things like little wedding puppets, no. I WANTED this to be easy on you and I WANT you to be comfortable, which is why I gave you the tie as a gift and let you both pick whatever else you wore.
4. Since when does the guy’s tie have to match/go with the woman’s dress? Fiance and I have NEVER coordinated his tie to my dress before. We both just wear what we feel like wearing.
Why are they being so weird about what they’re wearing? First Future Mother-In-Law didn’t want to go shopping with me. Then she got weird about my grandma stepping in for my mom (who, if you’re new to this story, is deceased). Then Future Father-In-Law claimed to like his tie. Now they’re insisting that our own damn wedding colors don’t go together and insisting that we return FFIL’s tie that he LIKED, or at least claimed to.
But Fiance already brought it home. He was at their house without me today which is why this happened. So now I’m stuck. I can’t very well give it back to Future Father-In-Law now and say, “No, wear this” and force it back on him. But I also am pissed at the fact that now I’m pretty much forced to return it (which, by the way, it’s out of the return time limit which means I’ll only get store credit, for a store I never shop at).
I know on the wedding day I won’t care about this, no one will notice them, I’m the bride so all eyes are on me, etc. I KNOW THAT. I’m just venting here because I’m pissed about how my in-laws are acting about all of this. And about everything with the wedding, to be honest. This is the straw that broke the camel’s back.